Even if you’re not familiar with the term “mitomania,” you’ve certainly heard of pathological or compulsive liars. You’ll probably come up with a movie or book where the character had this problem and told countless lies. These films are sometimes catalogued in the comic book genre; However, far from being something funny, it is truly cruel and dramatic for the people who experience it and for the people who cross their path.
This is a very serious problem with painful consequences, both for the person who lies pathologically and compulsively and for the people who relate to it; In addition, it is especially difficult for people who have blindly trusted themselves and never expect them to discover it over time.
- Lying is a common act in the society in which we live.
- Pious lies are nothing more than a last resort that we sometimes use to get out of a situation that leads us to conflict.
- Sometimes they serve to defend ourselves from others or to protect our own dignity.
From the concept of? I can’t be with you because I’m busy all afternoon, when in reality the afternoon is free, but we’re not in the mood to leave the house; until yes, you are very pretty, is this dress pretty? when in reality that is not what we think. In the first case, don’t we want to tell the other person that there is something we like more than your business? just say ‘I can’t? Instead of ‘I don’t want to’ in the second case, one does not want to cause the other person’s pain by saying that they made a bad purchase regarding the dress.
“It is not the fact that you have lied to me, but the fact that I can no longer believe you, that terrifies me. -Friedrich Nietzsche-
What are white people: this does not mean that it is necessary to resort to it constantly, because we lose authenticity with ourselves and with others, if we do not really want to leave the house, we have the right not to want and to express it to others. someone else.
“Forgive me, but today I’m tired and I don’t want to go out. Why don’t we do it another day? With this simple phrase we gain a little more sincerity with the other person and with ourselves. , these “little lies”, as they say, are not synonymous with gravity or disorder, but rather a kind of subterfuge that one learns from a young time to quickly and easily leave certain conflicts without hurting the feelings of others.
“A lie would not make sense if the truth was not considered dangerous. -Alfred Adler-
Feelings that, lying or not, depend not on our injury, but on the person we interact with. If my friend is upset because I don’t feel like leaving home today because I’m tired, it’s not my responsibility; but it’s my responsibility to lie to him or not.
Pathological lies go far beyond that. They involve a leap of gravity that should not go unnoticed by anyone, do these people invent experiences they have not had, lie about their age, their profession, their past life, their academic or professional merits, the places where they lived?lie about the people around them.
One way or another, they try to fill a void with these lies and their justification is something like: if I hate my life and my person, I can invent a character that’s going through everything I’ve ever wanted. admire that person’s life, and he is immediately encouraged; then she will continue to lie as she has discovered that there are no negative consequences for her, but that it is all “benefits. “Benefits that will become poison for your life and those around you.
This way of lying generates other kinds of lies: compulsive lies. The person is already lying automatically. It systematically avoids internal and external conflicts and this eventually becomes a fully rooted and perfectly structured style of behavior. I avoid, use lies, which creates conflict.
When the liar is discovered, the “lie” is usually covered with other lies. If you realize that the person does not believe you easily and continues to question you, you usually get defensive and protect yourself by attacking, which ends up damaging relationships, as it is not possible to understand this behavior from the outside.
This eventually creates mistrust, and the people around you begin to live in a constant state of alertness, because they feel they need to find the truth at all costs in order to re-trust.
“The punishment of the cheater is not credible, even by telling the truth. -Aristotle-
The person who systematically and inadvertently should give himself the opportunity to receive psychological help, thinks that with your lies all you do is try to plug a hole that continues to grow, and you do so by being complicit in lies and imagination. .
It is necessary to accept who we are, to achieve what we want, without resorting to lying, all they do is to get away from what we really seek in our lives.