Life does not wait and cannot be programmed in an agenda, life happens now: in the here and now, it is at this very moment that everything happens, when opportunities arise and trains stop at the stations, warning of an arrival that will not happen. Remember, don’t let the happiness you deserve today be tomorrow.
This message, which in itself is inspiring and successful, contains a nuance that we may not have thought of before. Most of us know that the best opportunities are present right now; However, we do not always see them, or worse, we do not feel prepared for them, we lack some courage, some courage to cross the line of fear.
“Now: a curious word to express a whole world and a life” – Ernest Hemingway-
If we ask ourselves, why this indecision or this?If we see the doors that open every day before us, the answer is in our cultural heritage, in our education and in this vital perspective that made us take. children, we are convinced that there is a place where we will be happy, that there will come a day when, on the basis of our effort, our confidence and our desire to overcome, we will achieve this goal, this desired goal.
This may be true for some people; However, if there is one aspect that characterizes our current world is uncertainty, those who try most do not always get what they want, in essence, many of us spend half our lives expecting something, this never happens, diluting our hopes and expectations in this eternal expectation.
We need to apply a new strategy, let’s stop focusing on the future to appreciate the here a little more and now, let’s invest in a quality gift through a receptive look, an open mind and a heart that has what it needs.
For many, living attached to immediacy, to what is happening now, is nothing more than an act of irresponsibility; First of all, we understand that living here and now does not mean that we should assume a hedonistic vision, a carpe diem in the purest Baroque style, where we just enjoy the moment?as if there wasn’t a tomorrow. In fact, it is quite the opposite, because enjoying the present is also investing in the future.
Paul Auster has rightly said that people should learn to live today, because “What does it matter who you were yesterday, if you’re sure who you are now?”This is where the key is, knowing who we are today, remembering where we are, what we need and where we want to go. In fact, and out of curiosity, we can say that there is a very common type of patient that psychologists find daily in their clinical practice: what are they?Disconnected from themselves and the present moment.
Many are those who, when they experience a difficult sensation, experience a complex or problematic emotion, do not hesitate to interpret these events as “threats”. After this categorization, they choose to look the other way, saying “Tomorrow will be another day”, “Tomorrow will I be better?” or “time heals everything. “
They simply accumulate conflicts, voids and frustrations as who puts on their back all the stones they find in their path, avoid any responsibility to their person without knowing that the one who takes care of their emotions here and now intelligently invests in their happiness.
“Some are willing to do anything but live here and now. “Jonh Lennon
Our mind is like a hyperactive child traveling in a car, needing a toy, something to do, something to look at, think, dig, worry and even obsess, our thoughts never stop and are almost always focused on the immediate future. They are like that little boy in the vehicle who asks how far to go to the destination.
We forget that life is not a destination, life is a journey, there are moments, fragments rooted in a gift that we miss several times, a way to improve our approach, slow down the engine of this car and appreciate a little more the points The vision is to practice mindfulness. Now, to achieve this, we must train our minds using appropriate strategies. Let’s look at some examples.
In conclusion, learning to live in the here and now requires above all willpower and daily work, no one changes their orientation from week to week, but with determination and determination we will appreciate much more what really exists, what we can touch, feel and appreciate: the present.