Life is a wonderful journey, but it is not static, we constantly change, everything has a beginning and an end and the things that were yesterday, tomorrow can disappear from our present, accept this reality allows us to live here and now with more tranquility. , to enjoy what we have in our hands, without fear of losing it or not.
It is very important to learn to close stages, chapters or stories of our life, because it is to live: change, renew and not stay in the so-called comfort zone longer than necessary.
When we are trapped in a life that gives us nothing out of fear of change, in fact, we no longer live fully.
Constant change creates uncertainty and that uncertainty creates fear. Human beings have a great desire to be in control, but as rational beings we are, we must learn that there is no security except in the case of death. As much as we try to control our worlds, there will be certain situations or circumstances that will happen without delay and without having any power to change them.
So stop trying to control, you won’t come in and it will cause you discomfort, internalize the idea, real and true, that things can end and it will be good because it’s normal, it’s part of life.
You no longer want to stay where you shouldn’t be for fear of uncertainty, maybe today you’re suffering because you’ve closed a certain chapter, but tomorrow you’ll be happy and open another one that’s probably going to be much better. better because you will do better, you will have learned from the previous steps, you will have drawn conclusions and matured as a person.
Face memories as they are and try not to mix them with overly exaggerated feelings. What he’s gone isn’t coming back and there’s no point in rumining. Now you have a new stage ahead of you, to discover, explore, get to know you better. and above all appreciate and appreciate.
Every step involves fun, something positive, something new, something is never entirely bad, even if you don’t have the ability to achieve it now.
If you think coolly, moving away from emotions, you will see that nothing is entirely good, nor entirely bad, if your relationship is over and you have to close this step, you may think that now you can do the things you want you could not do with that person before, or that you have discovered what you do not want in your life, it is true that you will lose the good things you had with this person , but as we said before, other good things will enter your life, new doors will open, you will discover new paths.
Everything changes, everything happens, everything reinvents itself. We are constantly changing and we are also evolving as people, we are not static. The person you were yesterday is not the same as it is now. We grow, mature, age, and die; it is the natural order of things and we do not have to go against the current or try to change it, but accept it with serenity.
Why did a person like that die, why did you leave me for someone else?Why was I fired? I ask you: why do you ask this, do you think you’ll solve your problem?Let him go!
The past, the past is, let it go. There’s no point in solving another problem or unnecessary frustration when you want to know why. You may never know why, and if you do, it will also be useless.
Don’t say things like, “Isn’t it fair that it’s over?”My life no longer makes sense after the end of my relationship ?, etc. They are misconceptions, exaggerated and in practice. You’ll adapt sooner or later to change, but you can do it much sooner if you learn to handle your ideas and thoughts well.
To do this, you need to replace them with more realistic, not necessarily positive, sentences until you start believing them and making them automatic: “It may be unfair to end up this way, but life is unfair by definition. to handle that?” The meaning of my life does not depend on a certain person, because I have other things that I can enjoy.
Discard old things, delete photos, break documents, donate clothes, change houses, partners or work?Don’t get stuck where you haven’t been in a long time.
Start building from your present and design your future. What you think you need and that’s fundamental to your life, in fact it’s not. Is it essential to eat, breathe, sleep, drink? The rest is just a routine, a habit, and man is able to get used to it and lose his habit?You can, go ahead, without fear!
Try to apply these three steps and you will gain wisdom, maturity, strength and mental health. Take, embrace and accept the changes, integrate them to you, to your life, to your world.
Look forward, like when driving a car, and don’t look back, just look at the rearview mirror quickly, but you should drive forward, watching and accepting what’s going on and what’s to come. accepts the constant change that life is.