One of the most acclaimed and talented writers and poets the world has presented to us, Pablo Neruda, said with great wisdom that “everything is ceremony in the wild garden of childhood”. In the face of such an obvious reality, how is it possible?that so many parents and educators can’t understand an endangered child?
It is important to remember that an insecure child, in addition to his own genetics, is defined by the experiences he had during his childhood and that they were not well followed, understood or resolved.
- There are different causes experienced by an unsafe child that can cause sadness.
- Anxiety.
- And even more serious conditions such as social isolation.
- Depression.
- Or guilt; this is because the problems have not been resolved in time.
A traumatic episode can cause a child to become insecure. This can happen for a variety of reasons, such as the death of a pet, experiences in kindergartens or even within the family itself, and can even be caused by a change of home.
We must never forget that routine is a source of safety for children, stability in the first years of life is necessary to allow their training and education in an environment that suits him, parents, guardians and educators must be very understanding and empathetic in these situations and understand how important these things are to the child , unlike an adult.
“One of the best things that can happen in life is having a happy childhood. “Agatha Christie?
One way to avoid the education and training of a precarious child is early recognition of the situation, the sooner the problem is discovered, the easier it will be to study, renew it and even prevent it from continuing, for this it is important to observe a number of symptoms:
Once we have the diagnosis and we detect an insecure child, it is time to understand him and be able to gradually redo his behavior to avoid the psychological conditions seen earlier in this article.
The first thing to do to understand an unsafe child is to stay calm, receive a lot of stimuli during childhood and may have more or less large phases of insecurity, we must not forget that his physical and psychological abilities are in full formation. so his behavior doesn’t have to be so alarming, unless it lasts a long time.
Empathy will be our first ally when it comes to understanding an insecure child, in the face of his communication problems it is necessary to maintain a very sympathetic behavior, try to remember what you were liked at that age, what were you afraid of, what did you like and what you did not like, how did you see the world?
A specialist in child psychology will be a great support right now. To deal with such a child and know what we need to do, no one is better than a professional to guide us in being more understanding and empathetic.
Of course, it is necessary to perform a conscious observation exercise, it is important to detect what stimuli and situations cause the insecurity of the child, either at home or at school, in this way it is possible to reorient the situation so that the child finds a routine more appropriate to his personality.
Finally, affection is very important for the insecure child, knowing that she is loved and loved by those around her, who care for her, understand her and give her the atmosphere of peace and routine she needs is vital for her to improve.
“The best way to raise good children and make them happy” – Oscar Wilde-
As you can see, understanding an insecure child doesn’t have to be an impossible task, you have to love him with a lot of patience, affection and empathy, and act to prevent the problem from persisting and getting worse.