The inner child is made up of the feelings that persist in us, according to the experiences of our childhood, are lessons that we learn from children and cannot unlearn, desires that we welcome as children and that we still keep in the depths of our lives. Being.
Good feelings lead to good habits, good qualities and success in adulthood, but negative feelings can lead to destructive patterns that interfere with our adult life. Working with the inner child helps us identify what caused these destructive patterns, assimilate what has happened, and heal the old wounds that still make us suffer.
- Merging your healthy inner child with your adult personality creates a balanced view of yourself and also gives you peace of mind.
Almost everyone experienced something in his childhood that marked “on fire” his way of thinking and acting, and as Therese J says. Borchard in his article “6 Steps to Help Heal Your Inner Child”. (6 steps to help heal your inner child) on our parents, ‘They too are more likely to be injured children. ‘
The same can be said of our teachers, grandparents, uncles and other adults who participated in our creation, however, the goal of healing your inner child is not to find the culprit, but to accept what happened and take control of how it affects your life. today’s life.
Some of the consequences of your inner child’s ignorance are: not knowing how to relax or manage stress, being someone who takes life too seriously, generating a feeling of guilt for not being good enough, being prone to isolation, etc.
These habits are the product of your inner child’s irrational beliefs, such as “I’ll never be important enough for Dad to stop drinking. “Once you’ve identified these beliefs, you can start replacing them with realistic truths, “Dad made bad decisions, but now I can avoid them. “
Reliving the pain of some memories can be a process of distress, as children we felt responsible for everything that happened at home and could not understand that our parents might have problems that had nothing to do with us.
Only after we realize that we are just children and realize that we could not have done it at that time to change our circumstances can we get rid of this wrong guilt and really begin to cultivate self-love within us.
So while it can be hard to come face-to-face with what worries you about your past, don’t run away because it’s worth it.
After comforting and healing his inner child, the child becomes an innocent, curious, simple, playful and joyful being that can produce joy and creativity.
Once you have your inner child healthy, you can assume the role of “father” for her. Just as a wise and loving father does, you can grant him healthy desires to play, spend an entire afternoon laughing and enjoying. If one of these old false thoughts comes from your inner child, you can reassure him by reaffirming his or her worth.
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