Defining a person usually limits it, because human beings are much more than just a definition. Sometimes a person thinks it’s a certain way and it’s not. For example, we can call someone “loose” because they’re not. worker, does not like to do many things, has trouble starting something, gets up late, etc. , however it is necessary to check if this way of being is caused by sadness or lack of motivation.
There are many people who are ruled out by careless when they have not actually simply found that spark for life, which motivates them to get up and work toward a goal that makes them happy, so definitions are limited. Every way of behaving has a reason, after all, we are not born prepared, we move and adapt to the environment.
- It’s not always the others who tend to label others.
- Many times it is the people themselves who put a definition.
- We are not a static thing; We depend on many factors.
- The environment.
- The situation.
- Etc.
- Words do not reach the depth of what a human being is.
- By the time it is defined.
- It loses the most important essence.
The way of acting, the triumphs and failures, the titles, the afitions, are small things that accompany the person, but there is something much bigger and more excellent in every human being, we must not define it and put static labels on it.
We’re not a stationary stone. We shape ourselves over the years. Definitions often prevent a person from changing because they cling to what they think is true. If we are aware that we are not made in a fixed way. , labels will not limit us because we will continually discover and grow as people.
Labels have been imposed on us since we were children, do schools have scholars, good, bad, pretty, ugly, disasters, etc. ?
Among friends there is a tendency to put labels, and this continues to happen in adulthood, for example, people who were not very pretty and, with age, became more attractive, will tend not to believe it because they have been labeled since childhood. who weren’t beautiful.
If we realize that the mental programming we have is greatly influenced by past experiences and definitions that we have received over time, we will see that it is in our hands to begin to value ourselves in a deeper way, without definitions, faults or negativity. .
Parents often label their children according to their education. Then it won’t change because a definition has already been formed and they’ll think they were born that way. If a bad student already sees that he or she has the disaster label at home, he or she will make no effort to change. Why?” If my parents already have this idea of me and don’t think it can be any other way. “
On the other hand, if the tags are removed and the results of the actions are not related to the person, but to the situation or stage, things may be different. A child looks at himself through his parents’ eyes; she doesn’t have the tools to be independent and have an opinion of herself.
Isn’t it the same thing a father tells his son, you’re a mess and a terrible student, you’re going to get your punishment and pay for your bad grade?This year you’ve repeated, but we know you’re smart and you could do better, let’s see what we can do to make it better next year?and negotiate, educate, set goals with rewards, etc. ?
In the first sentence it is called disaster and bad student, so a personal value is added to the academic results obtained, so it is understood that we cannot change. In the second sentence, bad results are not related to the person, but to a bad year, and the option is given to change by relying on the value of the person.
If some parents believe and appreciate their child’s change, they will also believe and appreciate it. Treating a child one way or another can lead to confrontational behavior, with no choice for change, or safe behavior with healthy self-esteem.
The big question is: How do we define ourselves? Based on what ??. The healthiest thing would be to react according to human values, because they are things that can stay in time and not get lost, if for example you define yourself by what you have, your profession, etc. , could be lost over time, so you should never add personal value to unstable things.
The healthy and the sure would be to unite human values, such as honesty, humanity, generosity, etc. If we define ourselves based on the positive values we have, we will have a solid foundation that cannot be destroyed over time.
We are who we want to be and become who we believe we are, so keep your thoughts positive. The mind is a very powerful machine: put it in your favor, believe in yourself, love and do not define yourself too much, because we are much more than a few words, we are very complex and extraordinary human beings, and we have no definition because we are constantly growing and changing.
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