I remember when I was in high school and a nun, who was my teacher and was teaching Portuguese, was reading a book called Momo to class. I’ll never forget it! Momo was a girl who had the virtue of knowing how to listen, and I don’t write this here because I have this virtue; on the contrary, I don’t think I have it, but it’s like they say, “Recognizing that change needs to be changed is the first step. “
Did I put this into practice today? I kept the phone in my purse, completely forgot the environment I was in, stopped interrupting the person to tell them about my similar experiences, I looked him in the eye, I looked at his gestures, I saw the expression on his face As he spoke, how did he change your breath according to the feeling you wanted to express?Today I realized that listening is much more than hearing the words floating in the air.
- I can say that putting this into practice made me feel very good; I felt smarter.
- Because that way you can understand everything the person means.
- Even.
- Perhaps.
- What was not said in words.
- My brain understood it through the analysis of his eyes and gestures.
- I could feel empathy.
- Not because I.
- I had had a similar experience before.
- But because I put myself in his shoes.
- I listened to her and understood exactly what she meant.
I understood that, not necessarily, when someone needs to be heard wants to know if you have lived a similar situation at some point in your life, what the person wants is for you to understand how it feels, to listen goes beyond our ears. , reaches the brain and soul.
Now I understand why they say we have 2 ears and 1 mouth, talk less and listen more, and I can say that sadly, I have done the exact opposite throughout my life.
On the other hand, I can assure you that those I spoke to felt that they were understood; I paid attention to them and they were finally heard.
I think I’ll keep practicing this ‘listening to people’. The benefits far outweigh the losses!
Can you hear?