Happiness may be what we don’t know very well, but we all look forward to it. Sometimes we even generate great discomfort because of the very demands we impose ourselves to find it, to be happy no matter what.
If you ask someone where to find happiness, you will usually receive answers that refer to the outside, to which it dissipates, to what is more beyond our control than inside.
or say the known song
But the thing is, it’s not like that: neither health, nor money, nor love bring happiness, and believing that your mood depends on these areas of your life is a big mistake, which in the end will lead you to be the most unhappy.
Unfortunately, we have invented a plettive of irrational beliefs, demands and needs that are only in our minds, but which we believe are absolute truths, unwavering phrases that must define our path. In fact, questioning them can cause us the same vertigo as approaching a steep cliff.
We take them as commandments, we are guided by them, we make them our own, and we even defend them even if they make us suffer.
We mistakenly believe that if these needs and requirements are met, we will find happiness, but if we do not achieve our expectations, we will feel miserable. Requirements that no one can handle, let alone ourselves.
Usually, these beliefs refer to the approval of others, the perfect performance of oneself in a relevant task, money, health, having a stable and perfectly functional loving relationship, being a mother, being an interesting and charismatic person, etc.
There really are many types of beliefs and each person has their own, but they basically have to do with what we just mentioned. “Is the job worthy?”
This is where we tend to seek our happiness, which causes us to set unrealistic expectations and, in the end, be very unhappy; in fact, research confirms that we have more and more needs being met and that we are more unhappy than last year.
If we have more and more and live more comfortably, with more abundance, why are we more unhappy?
What fails is that we believe that external things will make us happy, it is true that getting the job of your dreams, finding a partner who loves you or having money gives you some pleasure, but in reality everything is very short term. it is pleasure, which is not happiness.
Human beings quickly get used to what they need and need more and more, so that it has no end, do not conform to all that this entails.
Who doesn’t know millions of dollars who have stolen?Who has never heard of someone who commits suicide while working when they can work halfway to live?
When you realize you’re not happy regardless, you think the solution is more what you already have: work more hours, try to be more attractive, earn more money, travel more, desperately find a boyfriend?And that’s why the fall hurts even more.
What these people do not know is that happiness is in themselves, in their attitude, in how they decide to enjoy life and in the functioning of their scale of values.
Happiness is in how you enjoy and have fun with what you have, whether it’s a little or a lot. There are people who have very little and are much happier than those who have mansions and great fortunes.
There are many examples of people who have it all and end up committing suicide after spending their whole lives taking all kinds of medications.
If you want to be happy start enjoying everything around you and stop complaining about what you’re missing, it’s virtually impossible for all areas of your life to be complete, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be satisfied with what you have in your life. Hands.
The smell of coffee in the mornings, the laughter of your little girl, dancing to the sound of beautiful music with your partner in the middle of the room, running with your dogs behind the butterflies, staring at the stars, a good conversation on the beach while blowing the breeze. your face, open a bottle of wine with a hot bath?They’re little things that definitely bring happiness, you know?