Living unwillingly is a global reflection of apathy and demotion in relation to what we expect from the present and the future, awakening every day in this state can become a torment, a mountain to climb that becomes really steeped by the inertia that governs our mental state.
It should not be forgotten that for people who live without desire, getting up every day means spending time on certain tasks with the feeling of not having the strength to perform them.
- In a way.
- They have to make an extra effort.
- Required by the burden they carry.
- To achieve low-cost goals (breakfast.
- Changing clothes.
- Taking a shower?).
- Apathy is so high that they find it extremely difficult to take the lead.
“The opposite of love is not hate, but apathy. “-Leo Buscaglia-
Sometimes apathy goes unnoticed because the person compensates for a lack of motivation with effort, so those who live with a person living in a spiral of rejection may not realize the pain they may feel.
Let us think: how can we realize that this person feels constant apathy if he behaves as usual?That’s a relevant point.
Many times, we do not give due importance to each other’s emotional state by the absence of relevant external symptoms Does the person continue to do his work, his family obligations, to attend social gatherings ?, there are even smiles on his face.
Internally, however, there is no hope
“Sadness is also a kind of defense. “
When someone in this state tells us how they feel, we tend to respond with the typical phrases: “Is it nothing?”, do you want to see how it goes ?,?Doesn’t it matter to everyone, ?,? happy, doesn’t it matter so much?
We should emphasize that, although the intention is to help, for a person who lives unwillingly, typical motivational phrases may not be comforting, on the contrary, the feeling of not being understood can cause communication channels to be cut off and closed.
So what can we do if a person tells us to feel apathetic, well, that person may need your support and active listening: feel that you understand them, that they understand what they are going through and that you will be by their side. .
It is likely to be comforting for her to be able to express what it means to live unwillingly and explain what it is like to make a constant effort to accomplish each task.
“Discouragement is the stone on which you must necessarily walk to cross the river. You can fall, but can you still get up or swim to finish crossing it?-Anonymous-
Living without will, with apathy, can have a physiological component, according to a research group. Demotivation and apathy are associated with very specific brain circuits that, at times, can reveal certain abnormalities in their functioning.
Let us think that, behind unwillingness, there may be conditions that go beyond external circumstances.
Apathy can mask some underlying pathologies and psychological problems, such as major depression or dysthymia, so one of the first steps to overcome this condition is to exclude medical problems (hormonal or organic causal) and/or psychological problems.
Leaving aside the source of apathy, it is important to seek support, we can do it both in our immediate environment and in the field of specialized professionals, because suffering is sometimes greater than ourselves, so we need external help to overcome it.
“If you haven’t learned from sadness, you won’t be able to enjoy happiness. “- Nana Mouskouri-