There are several types of loneliness. The most appreciated is the one that allows the encounter with oneself and self-knownness.
However, there is another loneliness that is very destructive and dangerous. This is how it feels when we share our time and life with people who are very important to us and who are completely empty.
- They say the world is full of people with empty bodies and hollow souls.
- Who feed off the feelings of others to feel useful and important.
They are important because we choose them freely, we project in them our emotions and feelings, until we realize that they cause us pain and suffering.
Understanding this process by falling in love with an empty person is very complex, many times in our social life we have friends and even family with this feature.
What can we do in the face of this lack of emotion, empathy and reciprocity?, What is the best way to act?
Alexandre Dumas said his father complained about empty people. He defined them as pitchers: “The more empty they are, the more noise they make. “
With this symbolic phrase, we realize that these people do not go unnoticed in our lives and do not leave us indifferent.
But why do we define them like this, with these shortcomings, what is behind this kind of behavior?
We will not discuss here the existence of the soul, which is the first thing we think when we talk about this emotional vacuum.
Do we understand this void like him? Lack of a number of basic emotions.
? They are unable to project themselves into others to understand, empathize, and understand the personal perspectives of those around them.
? Their behavior is based on a set of unconscious rules, in which the priority is themselves. The key is to provide yourself.
? We say that they are unconscious rules because they act automatically, without evaluating the results, in this type of personality there is no place for mistakes, the bad is a weakness that they cannot accept.
? Empty people don’t listen and don’t vent with others, if they do it at any time it’s for their own benefit.
Empty people are characterized by something very basic: the absence of happiness.
In their world, they seek to manipulate people to fill their inner void and rely on the emotions of others.
There will never be generosity, altruism or joy to live in their lives, because they are unbalanced, they oscillate between extremes: all or nothing, immense love or absolute indifference.
These people have an incomplete personality and establish immature relationships. Do not attempt to be the person who fills this void and deprivation; the price may be too high.
The first thought may be “keep the distance,” but we talk about emotions, and in general the relationships we establish with the people we love.
We need to think, evaluate and decide whether it’s worth following this relationship or not.
However, we can say that we are all a little complicated, some cut their edges, others try to fill their gaps.
Sometimes one type of personality fits perfectly with another, but we must not forget that “people do not change overnight, no long as we want this to happen”.
With daily coexistence, with our balance and emotional integrity, we can evaluate our relationships and see what they bring us, good or bad.
Below are some resources that we can use on a daily basis
? In front of family members: If you have a father, mother, or siblings acting cold and empty, reduce the influence and importance they have on you and in your life, don’t make the mistake of acting like them. Always show yourself how you really are, how you feel and what you expect from life.
? Dealing with a romantic relationship: If your partner is an empty person, explain how you feel and what you are able to accept or not, you are not an empty person, you have emotions to fill, emotional needs and you want reciprocity. The relationship doesn’t give you any of this, think carefully before deciding what your next step will be.
There is no worse loneliness than we feel when we are given a fond report, a world of emptiness.