Conflicts begin when there is disagreement or opposition as to values, beliefs or interests between two or more people, the difference is not the conflict itself, but its cause Conflict occurs when this disagreement leads us to take steps to eliminate, neutralize or minimize the adversary. After all, how can we live with different opinions?
Sometimes confrontation occurs verbally. The objective is to persuade or impose on the other its own motivations, other times conflicts generate direct actions that can be direct or veiled violence, in any case the objective is always the same: that one opinion prevails over the other.
- However.
- Under certain circumstances.
- Neither party can defeat the other.
- In such cases.
- There are three ways to solve the problem: the first is to “page”.
- Ignoring contradiction and reinforcing other aspects of the relationship.
- It would solve the problem by concluding new agreements that satisfy both sides.
The second way is to set a limit and keep your distance: the conflict ends the relationship, the third way is to persist in the disagreement and maintain the relationship, despite everything, in this case the conflict finally takes hold.
“Violence never resolves conflicts or mitigates dramatic consequences. “John Paul II?
We say that conflicts take root when there is a situation in which neither side can defeat the other, there is, so to speak, a balance of forces, but instead of ending the confrontation, as no one can win, the contradiction continues. learn to live with this situation, without solving it and without ending it.
This type of situation occurs only when, in parallel with the conflict, there are also strong links between the parties, otherwise all involved would simply walk away or make firm decisions to keep the other person at bay.
In entrenched conflicts there is a whole context of common agreements, values, beliefs and interests; on the other hand, there is also an aspect or element in which a fierce confrontation occurs, such problems are very common among couples, close friends or relatives.
Of course, where there are human beings there is conflict, in fact many of these conflicts are insoluble, but we have learned to deal with them, we know that a certain person disagrees with us on any subject, but instead of “putting firewood”, we learn to live with divergent opinions and downplay this contradiction. It is an adaptive and healthy way to deal with these kinds of difficulties. What is unhealthy is to feed the disagreement and always push it to the limit.
There is always a solution to all human conflicts, sometimes it only takes a little goodwill. Without it, even the smallest disagreements will erode a relationship. What happens to entrenched conflicts is that the parties involved appreciate it, that they seek a way out. The possibility of not imposing yourself is a great loss.
A group of researchers from the universities of Tel Aviv, Jerusalem and Herzliya discovered several interesting aspects, the first is that when a person is visibly involved in one or more conflicts with another, he understands the arguments he uses as threats. agree with the other is to act against oneself.
On this basis, the researchers did a test: they showed a group of Israeli fans a series of videos related to their beliefs. The material paid tribute to his beliefs about the Palestinians: for example, the total disappearance of Muslims, their complete degradation. and their stoning for all the countries of the world, so they did not contradict the beliefs of the interviewees, but took them to the extreme.
The result was that those who watched these videos were more willing to re-evaluate their beliefs. In other words, they opened a space for self-criticism. The best part was that, some time later, it was discovered that this change in attitude persisted over time. Researchers have called it “paradoxical thinking,” which is the ability to admit that we can live with different opinions in peace. Do you think this can be applied in our personal lives?