Feeling bitter is normal in humans. We all feel a grudge at some point, but what really shouldn’t be allowed is that this grudge is rooted in the heart, like a poisoned arrow: all it does is hurt, causing even more damage than the same action caused. that generated the grudge. .
We are responsible for our own happiness, we have the right to be happy, however, happiness is a personal decision, you decide if you want to continue living with negative feelings, like a grudge, or if you want to be happy if you take them off, like an onion with all those diapers that were sick and that do not let you see what is going on inside.
- Spite is a feeling that brings benefits when presented at appropriate doses (for example: it prevents you from trusting someone who has already betrayed you again.
- Unless you regain confidence).
- But we hold a grudge against our ally.
- Letting it dominate our personality.
- We created a problem that we did not have and that often has no easy solution; on the other hand.
- If the grudge is already in us.
- We must face it wisely: as if it were an adversary.
- He is not a friend and we do not even want him to be.
You can recognize an unpleasant person because they have some of the following traits:
His main feeling is anger at the damage he feels, thinks and does not express.
* You don’t want to talk about it or the person that bothers you
He usually speaks to the person dry and hard.
You can’t look into the eyes of the person who’s causing you resentment.
* Systematically reject any ideas or suggestions made by the person with which you hold a grudge against them, even if inside you know that the idea or suggestion is good.
So, they’d rather pay the price of not following him than agreeing with him. On the other hand, they direct these people to the essentials, with few words and directly.
It expresses resentment in nonverbal communication, activating the nervous system as if it faced danger and had to fight or flee.
Write in your mind notebook all the insults you interpret, from the moment the first one occurred, are your weapons if tense silence becomes declared battle.
The grudge comes from Latin and means “stale,” meaning that nothing that is stale can be or bring something good, so a resentful person hurts himself more than others. On the other hand, grudges increase blood pressure and heart rate, causing stress and anxiety?and these cause dizziness, muscle tension, choking, etc.
A real wheel-like spiral from which the hamster never leaves its cage and that leads nowhere, so it is necessary to learn how to handle emotions, to use “emotional intelligence” and get rid of feelings harmful to the body and mind. We must get rid of these heavy armor that only hurts us, making us unnecessarily unhappy.
First of all, know we have a grudge. If we don’t admit we have a problem, we’ll never get over it.
2. Learn to express our emotions, talk about what bothers us with the people who have irritated us.
3. Learn to forgive. We all make mistakes, watch out too!We must learn to forgive others and ourselves more.
4 learn to think positively. Yes, it’s not easy, it requires work, but it’s a rewarding job; If you start to change the way you think and see things differently, you will see the difference in your mind, your rest and your health, if you take things slower, if you start putting everything into perspective and letting things flow on your own benefit, everything will be better.
Nothing is easy, but with effort we can help ourselves and free ourselves from negative feelings like grudges. He uses emotional intelligence, laughs, listens to professionals and starts to change little by little. Most of the time wanting is power.