If we had a map of feelings and situations, we would realize that for many people loneliness and sadness are very close, this closeness is not only related to the loneliness of the first person, but also to the feeling of pity that we usually have. I feel for someone we consider isolated.
However, this vision is very distorted. Loneliness can only be seen as a burden when imposed, when the person who feels without social support wants to have it and has no way of finding it. This loneliness has a lot to do with the need to count, talk and relate. of our history.
- That is why it is such a damaging feeling in the elderly.
- They feel that they have accumulated a wisdom that they need to convey in a certain way and for that they are so grateful when we simply dedicate time to them.
- The loneliness imposed also has a lot to do with time and the feeling that we may not have enough courage for someone to dedicate it to us.
On the other hand, there is the loneliness chosen, the need to escape the social noise, the agitation of taking a certain distance that gives us clarity, as if we are seeing blur closely, this type of loneliness is what makes us independent and gives us the resources to feel satisfied, dependent solely on ourselves.
“Loneliness is the destiny of all excellent minds. “Arthur Schopenhauer.
If you’re a person who loves loneliness and lives alone in your home, you’re probably used to being the person you care about most, maybe right now you’re weighing the benefits that loneliness brings over those with whom you would have a shared life. .
Benefits include choosing your plans, not explaining, or being able to make instant decisions; Disadvantages include the security that would provide you with unconditional support, the need for well-being emanating from sharing, or the fact that you can delegate some of your domestic responsibilities.
There are people for which this daily loneliness will be a passing situation and others who will choose it forever, the best thing, whether you are from one group or another, is that your situation is the one you choose and not the one you owe. adapt to because you don’t have a chance to live any other way.
They say loneliness helps people to grow as a person and get to know each other, however, keep in mind that this will not be the case if you immerse yourself in the frustration of not being able to get rid of it, or in feeling, if you start obsessively looking for a way to escape, as if it were a kind of lion in the savannah.
“Why, in general, do we run away from loneliness? Why do very few people find the business with themselves. ? -Carlo Dossi-
If you learn to sustain yourself, to accept your virtues and flaws, and finally to love yourself, you will be on the right path to find happiness, for you will not depend on whether or not you have a sentimental relationship to achieve it. The perfect relationship must be the one you have with yourself, remember, the ones you create with others will come.
Who said loneliness means being isolated or not having friends?It’s not that! Loneliness is your ability to live your way and is by no means related to having good friends who understand you, love you, respect your lifestyle and make you happy.
In addition, when you decide to be alone, you give yourself the opportunity to meet new people because you have started to do new activities without company, people who share your tastes and will certainly enrich your life, will be part of this new melody. that enters it, and those that will make you move away from certain relationships that you have only clung to for fear of being alone.