It is not necessary to be alone to feel the cold of loneliness that surrounds the mind and heart, there are times when there is no greater loneliness than having someone with us, someone who does not meet our needs, who does not provide understanding, support or even company.
Today we live in a society in which social relationships evolve, new technologies allow us to interact with many more people, people we don’t need to see in person, but does it give you a sense of loneliness?No way.
- Loneliness has as many nuances as everyone’s needs.
- There are those who feel filled by this dimension.
- Finding themselves and exploring their own personality and possibilities; on the other hand.
- There are those who are unable to conceive of life without someone by their side.
- Someone who supports their decisions.
- Someone they express their thoughts and needs to on a daily basis.
- That’s for sure.
- But the most painful nuance is undoubtedly to feel the push of loneliness when they accompany us.
- When we see that whoever is with us brings nothing emotionally.
It was the psychologist Abraham Maslow who defined the pyramidal theory of human needs, establishing belonging or the need for belonging as the third link of the scale, just after the need to feed. And the reality is this. We all need someone’s attachment; that of our parents to grow and mature in harmony in our childhood and, subsequently, the value of friendship and emotional support of a couple.
We all feel the need to trust someone, but that’s where differences begin to arise. There are people who only need a friendship or a small, stable group to interact. Others, however, like to explore to meet new people, friendships with which to satisfy the need for affiliation, even if sometimes the void remains present. No one can meet their own needs. This is where the fear of loneliness arises, for no one seems to fill these gaps.
Loneliness despite the company. One of the most characteristic examples is one who, despite having a partner, despite someone with whom he wakes up every morning, feels an abyss of distance from each other, people who do not contribute, who do not support, who do not value How do we handle this situation?Prioritize. Living with someone who doesn’t know, can’t or doesn’t want to give us that emotional support will surely end up destroying our own integrity. Sometimes loneliness with someone is much more painful than individual loneliness. We don’t even have to fear, the last one.
Individual loneliness can be a necessary opportunity, a crank that opens the door to grow individually, to make us stronger. Loneliness is not always a stranded island without a horizon; sometimes it’s a ship that takes us to an ocean of new possibilities.