Psychological palliative care in the face of a terminal illness
Human beings are social in nature, love company and feel important to someone, so it is very difficult to erase the belief that being alone or feeling alone is dramatic.
- Since the days of the caves.
- We have learned that everything would be easier if we were accepted into a social group.
- Collaborating and facing threats all together.
- Because only we would have no chance of survival.
Why do we avoid loneliness?
-Carlo Dossi-
We are afraid to be alone because we carry this burden of information on our backs, even if these dangers no longer exist.
In addition, society, education and culture have helped reinforce some irrational beliefs about loneliness.
Who has never heard the phrase :?Will I stay for my aunt?Or at 40 and alone?!
It is essential to realize that the main problem is what we tell ourselves about the facts.
If we are able to think rationally, we will realize that loneliness is not real. Today we live in busy places and we are all connected through social networks.
This may not be enough and you feel simply because you live alone or are single, but I repeat that’s not the problem, what distresses you or depresses you is your perception of loneliness and what you think of it.
“Our great suffering in life is the result of the fact that we are alone and that all our actions and efforts are aimed only at escaping this loneliness. “
Obviously, if I tell myself a hundred times a day, or more, that being alone is a terrible thing, that no one loves me or that I will die alone, my emotions will be very intense and the suffering will be great.
People who fear loneliness believe that they are unable to defend themselves in the world, they need someone by their side to be happy, but reality shows us that no one needs anyone at all.
Some people live years and years with others who do more harm than good, simply for fear of being alone. They would rather suffer than get to know each other; lack of self-confidence and self-confidence makes them anxious and they prefer to do so.
Ma, it’s a mistake; learning to be alone helps us grow and mature psychologically.
Knowing how to be alone is realizing that in reality your best business is yourself, self-knowledge shows that you have many possibilities and that you are able to live alone.
The first step is to review our internal dialogue: what does loneliness mean to me?
If you think loneliness is a terrible thing, that it’s dangerous to be alone, that you can’t defend yourself, you have a problem, be more rational, more realistic.
Ask yourself, look for evidence for or against your thoughts, analyze and think about whether you can deal with these fears and whether they are really bad.
This analysis will surprise you and you will realize that your fears are unfounded.
Force yourself to spend time alone. For change, we cannot act only mentally or cognitively, but also on a behavioral level.
Plan a weekend alone; go to the beach, to the movies, read a good book or watch a movie if you want, but without social networks. Take this trip unans company.
If you do that for a while, you’ll see that he survived, that his fears weren’t real, and that they now know each other much better.
Manage your time also to “be with people”. Loneliness cannot be a way of life. Open up to the world and meet more people.
Are we often alone because we put one in? But? In all the people who cross our path, because we do not understand that people are not perfect and that there is no one to satisfy us or complete us completely.
You should know there are millions of people who want to meet you, but you have to open up.
Remember: being alone is fundamental to our self-care and our relationship with others, being good to yourself is the support of our well-being.