In today’s society, the idea that only trauma marks our lives is widespread, without thinking too much, we do not know the importance of what we do, such as the act of loving and being loved, returning to the idea that only the negative comes out. wounds, marks, scars or traumas, leaving love and possible emotional marks distant from each other, without the possibility of reconciliation.
The truth is that it’s a shame, because the reality of emotional marks can be very different from this design that looks like something out of a horror movie. What would we be talking about when we talked about society’s idea about it?
- In general.
- And what television.
- Film and books do not tire of repeating.
- Can dare to say that society thinks that an emotional mark is that change that occurs in a person after going through a traumatic situation.
- This change is generally radical.
- And has no connection to the personality we knew about the protagonist.
So, as we saw at the beginning of the article, apparently everything related to emotional marks is bad or painful. However, the second option we talked about at the beginning has not yet come into play; What about positive events and loving and being loved?
The question arises: what about positive events?Well, there are many ways to answer this question, but all, absolutely all, follow the path of YES.
First, let’s look for the right questions, can positive facts influence our behavior, emotions and thoughts, if something good happens to us, for example, if they give us good news or get a job, will we notice any changes in those aspects?
If we take personality as a concept of behaviors, emotions and thoughts in a stable way over time, could we say that if we were able to experience positive events long enough, they wouldn’t mark us?
And finally, could we say that loving and being loved is one of the most beautiful, pure, and positive events that can happen in our lives?It is undoubtedly one of the most powerful engines within the reach of humans. It is strange to think that with the amount of neurons, hormones, behaviors, thoughts and feelings attached to love, our personality is absolutely waterproof.
So could we say that if we love those who love us long enough (something extremely personal and variable), our personality can change, is love an emotional mark if it is expressed correctly?
Psychology has talked a lot about love and the bond that is created between people, cataloguing different types and using many different terms, but perhaps we can better understand how love and being loved through a daily example influences us.
We’ve been in a relationship for a short time. We haven’t had a relationship in a while, until that person seems to move our world, or at least try to do it, because, of course, we also have scars and it’s hard to believe that we fall in love again. everything we’ve suffered! Besides, we’re not teenagers anymore.
As the relationship progresses, almost inadvertently, we forget to stop our urge to take advantage of it, to jump head-on, so as this person inflates the relationship, increasingly, secretly, are we increasingly willing to jump?and we end up doing it, from time to time, more and more eagerly.
Finally, we seek a place for her in our life, the basis of dreams, this person begins to be part of our mental pattern, our maximum happiness and our life expectancy, we are again ourselves, without masks or secrets. If there is coexistence, mania, absurdity, absurdity and customs appear that, being more or less uncomfortable, we end up relativizing and accepting.
But also, as if by magic, we discover aspects of ourselves that we consider lies, forgotten and finished. Sympathy for your loved one. Concern for your well-being. This impossible stuttering in us, because we used to have nerves of steel. This will to share and enjoy. And above all, this kindness in ourselves, which we considered impossible and very “movie face” as true.
We’ve seen that we’re definitely changing. We change, not for the person, for whom perhaps everything is beautiful, but for the feeling present in our minds and hearts, in fact, we change and embrace change with joy and gratitude, forgetting fears and overcoming scars and traumas. have created a much deeper brand than the previous ones, more visible and therefore much more beautiful.
Throughout the text, we strive to convince ourselves that love can have a much greater force in our psyche and personality than negative events. Obviously, this may or may not be true; we should pay attention to all the factors of both types of events. Then why so much effort?
Cordial greetings? For justice. Justice for this emotion, for healthy relationships and for positive feelings. We see everyday situations in which negative emotions, clichés and stereotypes are generated around love and being loved, arguments that take away the desire to dive head-on in a relationship, latent fears, limits to our ability to be happy as a couple.
Therefore, for those who doubt whether or not to immerse themselves in a relationship, for those who tend to focus on scars and cannot see how they will leave that mark again, or for those who do not know if they want to start and get on. Don’t you dare, it’s a message of encouragement. After all, what are other emotional marks for?But this time, make them good.
We can not only be grateful and proud of our feelings and emotional marks, but also of what we live, knowing and understanding these brands; proud of what we have become. This is the basis of being the basis of love and being loved.