Love at first sight is like two eyes that meet, two eyes that meet and converge deep in the soul, making time stop from the first minute, is also the mystery of an encounter where chemistry orchestrates the attraction, but where the connection. is often born, one that restores the joy of life and allows the heart to beat again with hope.
The idea captivates, but the reality is sometimes very different. Love at first sight sells, likes and installs a very repeated image in the field of film, literature and advertising.
- Dr.
- Earl Naumann’s book “Love: Stories and Science Behind Instant Attraction” by Dr.
- Earl Naumann of the University of Arizona reminds us that more than half of us believe in this phenomenon.
- We believe that a look is enough for the flame of love to burn.
- Be born and seduce us.
- Leaving us breathless.
“Love is in the world to forget the world. ” Paul Éluard?
This neurochemical spark, laden with uncertainty, desire, mystery and illusion, has its own science, so although affective matter cannot always be observed under a microscope, or in a laboratory room, it is worth saying that much of the work done so far has come to tell us the same thing. Love at first sight exists, however, there are a number of conditions that accompany it that also need to be taken into account.
There are hasty loves, of which they cannot wait, that appear in an instant and in the most unpredictable moments. Love at first sight has always happened and will continue to happen at all times. Still, we also have slow-simmering loves, those that cook slowly and gently, starting from a sincere friendship and suddenly becoming a real passion.
Love does not include rules, criteria and orders on how it appears, we already know, however, in case we want to maintain this love that appears unexpectedly, we will need an order, negotiated agreements, an intelligently defined consensual emotional democracy. Mention the latter, it’s for an obvious reason. Love at first sight is the one who turns on the machine is the attraction, not the reason.
It is desire and illusion, it is magnetism, it is the halo effect and the chemical shipwreck caused by Serotonin and Dopamine, it is the bridge that will facilitate a sentimental relationship, which will give greater possibilities for this first encounter to occur, is a love that arrives without warning, but that will then require a more detailed maturation, which will have to reveal the mysteries to reality , setting aside illusions in order to contemplate the facts.
The University of the Netherlands conducted a study in 2017 on the same subject What kind of love is love at first sight?An empirical survey, he monitored some 600 people who had experienced what they themselves defined as “love at first sight. “
Of this sample, 92% started a relationship after this meeting, this meeting of gazes where the majority were quite sure they had found someone really special. The researchers conducted interviews with couples to learn a little more about certain psychological dimensions.
Love at first sight concentrates physical attraction, of which there is no doubt; however, it is not always necessary to have that exterior and undeniable beauty that catches the attention immediately, the researchers explain that there is something else, something that is transmitted through looks that offer confidence, sympathy, that connect comfortably and without fear.
As mentioned above, when two people experience attraction after this union of glances, it is more likely that there will be a first encounter, however, what happens, on several occasions, is that after the magnetism that is born from the gaze, we begin to create a series of idealizations that do not always conform to reality.
This attraction has its origin, in turn, by projecting a series of very specific positive qualities in another person, we consider it smarter, nobler, original, reliable and committed, we have created a halo effect that, with passion, will make this feeling more lasting in time, however, sooner or later, some more or less tolerable evidence is revealed.
The study of the University of the Netherlands found that a significant part of the sample studied managed to maintain the relationship over time, that is, the love born at first sight endures many times, matures and is established in a satisfactory sentimental relationship.
In most cases, however, the relationship ends when passion fades, when illusion meets reality and the couple is unable to turn that commitment into a bond based on intimacy, trust, affection and reciprocity.
Also, one thing that can also be demonstrated in this study is that a large part of the couples who had created their relationship from this encounter of such transcendence were fervent defenders of romantic love, for them aspects such as predestination or the soul mate were evident. facts that explained their success in the relationship.
In conclusion, science cannot deny that, in some cases, love at first sight exists and is a triumph, however, in most cases, after these looks meet, discover and connect, what exists. it’s just an attraction.
For attraction is always an unexplained channel of power that acts as the first step, as the first step towards a bond that, day by day, must mature and traverse its own difficulties to thrive in a successful and emotional relationship. Happy.