In January, February, March, April, no matter the month of your birth, but the one born between kisses rises, lifts the glass of love and affection and protects it to the end, for this gift is a great fortune we rarely value: when we receive it, we are far from understanding the immense fortune of having spent our first years, when we were babies , in a loving environment in which we were able to create safe emotional bonds.
Are newborns able to feel love, kindness, rejection?That is why in the first year of life they prefer to be accompanied by some people and not others, even before taking their first steps, the little one already begins to identify with emotions. and place the first pillars of what will be your emotional development: a fascinating process in which you will become involved throughout your life. One of the first steps in development will be to create the first emotional bonds.
- If we think about it.
- We’ll probably notice that babies and adults aren’t that different when choosing their favorite people and creating emotional bonds with them.
- The explanation seems simple: we learn to distinguish between those who treat us well and provide us with well-being and those of whom we can expect nothing.
Several studies support emotional ties being critical for a baby. For example, Harlow’s experiment shows that deprivation of maternal responses poses problems in the development and learning process of children. These problems range from young children’s growth issues to emotional problems.
This bond is built when parents provide the child with a series of long-term care that goes beyond meeting basic needs, such as covering food or providing shelter. We talk about support, protection, well-being, physical contact, affection, support in situations. discomfort, etc.
Babies’ emotional acuity should not be underestimated, as it is during their first years of life that they begin to carefully organize all their social experiences; I say in detail because no detail escapes everything they observe around them, absorbing all the differences they find and expressing preferences in front of them.
The baby develops in the world through his senses: touch, smell, taste, sight and hearing are his vital weapons of learning and serve him to relate to mom and dad and his whole environment. Your complex channels of thought are not yet open and the way you interact has a lot to do with impulses.
Connatural, babies have a preference for the human voice, so every time you hear the voice of your attachment figures, different parts of your brain will activate and activate the thousands of connections needed for the development process.
On the other hand, babies react quickly to skin-to-skin contact and eye contact; both act as natural relaxers for them, while promoting physical growth and optimal overall development of the newborn.
Every moment is a perfect opportunity to pamper and embrace your baby, however, it is true that there are certain moments more sensitive and conducive to bonding, we are talking about temporary places that, although often seem obvious, are often ignored.
The first, of course, is when the mother takes the baby immediately after delivery to breastfeed, because at that time the newborn is particularly receptive, unfortunately there are births in which there are complications, and as soon as the baby is born it needs treatment; However, it is no less true that, as far as possible, it will be good for the mother to enjoy this moment.
The next moments of breastfeeding are always perfect to continue the bond, either to receive the chest or if it is a bottle, it is a perfect opportunity to enjoy it, to look the baby in the eye and talk to him. imitate the facial expressions, gestures and sounds of their reference characters.
Bathing with babies, mimicking their movements, texting children, or just getting up in the middle of the night to give them the bottle or chest and changing their diapers are small moments that help establish attachment to the baby.
Connecting with children is a unique and personal experience, and very rewarding; in short, we are talking about one of the greatest privileges that accompanies the title of “parents”. There is no magic formula that tells you how to do it because there are no steps that can be used to give love and love to all four corners. . It is a natural process in which only parents must participate.
The period in which children are young is very short, but it creates the solid foundation on which the child builds the emotional bonds that bind him to his trusted people and the personality that will accompany him for the rest of his life. Parents can pass on to you right now they will always take with you.
You, Mom and Dad don’t know (or yes), the first few years of life happen very fast, so enjoy your baby without limits of kisses, hugs and caresses, enjoy this opening and this closing of eyes full of emotions and unforgettable In short, give it your best and let me love you.