Do I like it or do I need it? Sometimes we realize that we don’t like the person next to us so much, are we living a love or a lie?Have we lied to each other and to ourselves?
Where is the dividing line between necessity and love?Or maybe there’s no such limit?
- Perhaps it was not love.
- Perhaps it was the need to feel something different; something that will mark my life for a while.
Love is a feeling that has nothing to do with outdated concepts like possession, love is such a strong feeling that it overcomes all barriers, we can even love someone who does not live with us, because as we said, loving does not mean having or possessing.
However, when we live with the love of our lives, we can see that she is more in need than love. Think about it: What do you need your partner for?You’ll probably find that you need your partner in most areas of your life.
For example, might you need your partner to take care of the kids, take care of the races, pick you up from work, prepare your meal?Without realizing it, necessity often plays a much more important role than love.
Love is not blind, what blinds is its need to feel loved and welcomed; this blind person needs to be with someone, even if they know they shouldn’t be.
Maybe it’s time to stop and wonder if you still love your partner or if time has made this love a necessity Do you know what happens when you no longer need it?Love begins to disintegrate and it all ends at some point.
Behind this need there may be deeper problems such as emotional dependence, a problem that we sometimes do not see, but which is there and, little by little, harms the couple and even the person.
We will not be able to maintain a healthy relationship if we simply need that person; we must love each other, we must learn to be alone so that we do not feel alone or even accompanied.
Imagine that your partner wants to date friends, but their need to have you by their side makes them angry and sends signs that they are not satisfied with this choice. You are selfish and think only of yourself: without realizing it, you put your needs on top of each other.
The best way to be happy with someone is to learn to be happy alone, so company is a matter of choice and not a necessity.
If there is no psychological problem that prevents us from finding a partner, we can talk about another point. In every relationship there is a small “necessity” but you have to be aware. The need cannot be greater than love.
When necessity triumphs over love, is it necessary to rething the relationship to realize what is wrong?We often need so much love that we don’t realize we’re in a bad relationship.
It is very difficult to define love, it can be hidden by necessity, a need that is always selfish because the person thinks only of his own well-being.
Love is freedom, it knows no labels or barriers; love is pure and light, trying to eliminate it is a serious mistake. It’s normal for you to need your partner, but maybe this need has nothing to do with love.
Letting go of a person or a situation is not ignoring it, but accepting it without control. Letting go should be an act of love and not fear.
Ask yourself: do I like it or do I need it? If necessary, it’s important to go back and change your attitude. The need can be comfortable and pleasant, but very selfish.
We must learn to balance love and need in our relationships to be happier; we have to think about each other’s feelings. We all love him when they need us, but we love him more when they love us.