The love that is asked is not love, it is a lack of dignity and respect to the person with himself, because when we love someone, we take care of that person and avoid as much pain as possible, so if you do not take care of your loves, if you do not avoid your pain, it is only a false love.
In this sense, doing this is the first step towards full love, so as not to fall into cases of manipulation, abuse and victimization. We probably feel and believe that sometimes suffering is inevitable, but it is not.
- Realizing and moving away from a love that does not love us and does not pay attention or affection involves going through a period of mourning that must be respected; it’s a time and a space to understand what happened.
Suffering out of love needs reflection to overcome it, because the anguish of realizing that someone does not love us terrifies us inside, we feel that this love nullifies and disables all our feelings and ends our ability to love.
We must give ourselves time to annoy ourselves, deny reality, fantasize, horrify, lose ground, not understand each other and then discover the parts of us that are broken and those that are intact, restore feelings.
Love must be shown, not begged. To implore love is to submit our ability to love the cruellest feeling: indifference. Indifference arises from the imbalance of relationships and is perpetuated by the weakness of one of the members of the relationship.
There’s nothing better than continuous expressions of interest to start opening your eyes when you feel compelled to close them.
Then we realize that all love is not true love, that our desire does not always receive reciprocity, and that to be happy as a couple it is necessary for the two boys to have fun together, to be complicit and good lovers.
It is only in the absence of lies, excuses and disinterest that it is possible to create a love that is, in essence, freedom, and generates healthy behaviors and not resentments. We deserve relationships in which we have freedom of choice, closeness, based on affection, shared time and thoughts that go hand in hand.
No one can make you unhappy without your consent. To build a happy relationship it is necessary to give yourself importance and courage, to love oneself, that is, we have to demonstrate all this every day.
When we do, we will be willing not to look for those who do not value us and show no interest, not to abandon ourselves to the emotional limbo of indifference that only gives us ignored messages and unfounded silences.
Even if love disappoints us, feels that we are at the side of the love of our lives or that we do not believe that there are eternal loves, true and indispensable love is love for oneself, and it will be based on the culture of this sense of personal love that we can understand and investigate what we truly deserve.