Love and humor are the two key elements to maintaining good mental health, improving relationships with others and being happier.
We often tend to have lively discussions with other people, we are on the defensive and we emphasize ourselves by a common and ephemeral fact.
We finally realized that our attitude was not right and we lost
For example, there are couples who live blaming themselves without reaching a mutual agreement, because normally, when we feel attacked, we raise a barrier and try to defend ourselves so that our egos do not get hurt.
Actually, it’s a mistake. If I defend myself with the same weapon I was attacked with, I’ll create a war that’s not worth what’s left is one?Bitter taste? And a good dose of ‘bad vibrations’.
Another very clear and radical example to show that love is a powerful weapon is Gandhi. He became independent from India without a single shot, without aggression, simply thanks to “Ahimsa”.
It is an ethical-religious principle present in Hinduism and Buddhism that consists of not harming other living beings, whether through actions, words or thoughts, it is a strategy that allows you to discover your good and loving side of the other.
That is, it is giving love to the other, no matter how he treats us, remember that he is a good person and that we love him unconditionally, even if he treats us badly or even aggressive at the time.
“Love is the most powerful force of the human being and, at the same time, it is humbler than we can imagine.
-Gandhi-
It’s a slow-acting weapon, but extremely powerful. Give your love until the other person thinks about your behavior and begins to transform.
We can practice this technique in our day to day and see the powerful effects that can result from it, we will realize that we can break the patterns of others and the result is that they begin to treat us well and come into contact with their inner child. .
If our spouse, friend or family member is very angry with us, yells at us and rebukes us, the sensible thing to do is not to enter this absurd war and give him a hug, a kiss or a caress.
He will probably reject you at first, but if we persist, we can disarm you.
On the other hand, the use of humor becomes an excellent buffer of the shots that are taken in life; like love, it improves personal relationships and makes life’s unpleasant events more bearable.
“If the man had more sense of humor, things might be different. “
-Stanislaw Lem-
The sense of humor makes us realize that nothing is that important and that, most of the time, we are the ones who value and dramatize the events of our life and we feel very bad about it.
Sometimes there’s no room for humor, but they’re a minority. Whenever possible, we must open our minds, be more flexible and laugh at adversity.
Problems are inevitable and happen to all of us, but they are never as serious as we think, it is almost always us who invent things with our negative thoughts.
In addition, good humor stimulates creativity, unlocks us and helps us find solutions.
It sounds very simple, but practicing the sense of humor and love in our lives can become an arduous task. The key is to persevere until he is part of us; then we will be loving and laughing people and life will be much more peaceful.