To take care of love, it is essential that the small details are saved every day, that we value our partner and that we make them feel special.
This is something that may seem very obvious and that we are all used to listening to and even saying, however, although we are very familiar with theory, in practice we are not so competent, are we thinking about that?
- “At the end of the day.
- You realize that the little girl is always more important.
- Conversations at three o’clock in the morning.
- Spontaneous smiles.
- Disastrous photos that make her laugh with laughter.
- The ten-word poems that make her cry.
- Books that no one else knows and become your favorites.
- A flower that gets into your hair.
- A coffee that you drink alone.
- That’s what’s really worth it.
- Little things that provoke great emotions.
Everything that is neglected is lost. Even in love, for if a relationship is not maintained, illusion and will will will be lost to the point where everything will no longer make sense.
We are used to ignoring or refering our partner because we believe he has an obligation to support us and we hope that he will always understand us, even if his own needs are under control.
Who hasn’t been in such a situation?When that happens, we’re used to justifying the other person, but what we’re really doing is apologizing.
This, in turn, will bring personal and relational benefits, since being emitters and recipients of affection and care makes us feel precious and worthy of love, which keeps our self-esteem and emotional well-being in good condition.
If we choose to close our eyes and not solve these problems, our relationship will fail, the lack of shows of interest and gratitude in love generates doubts and insecurities about the couple.
As we have said on other occasions, there is no one-way recipe for love to last, however, we can be sure that the key is to pay attention to what our partner needs, while never meeting our needs and concerns.
For example, relationship experts like John Gottman claim that there are 5 basic pillars that underpin love:
In the end, happy couples have no more or less difference than others, but they have acquired the ability to understand, accept, and care for themselves.