Love without tenderness is useless, I don’t want it, it’s not true. Because for me it is the most cultured and delicate language of affectivity. In every word, in every gesture and in every tender embrace offered, the jar of our most intimate essences is opened, those that confirm the bond with the beloved.
?Ternura ?, is this type of word that is only found in the museum of forgotten actions, besides, we are not all made of that material with which affectivity finds its paths, its veins, its folds to give a real meaning to love. It takes a little serenity and some inner calm to recreate in these subtleties, in the affection that caresses the skin and makes the heart beat.
- “Nothing is small in love.
- Those who expect great opportunities to show their tenderness do not know how to love.
- -Laure Conan-.
Paul Ekman, one of the most recognized psychologists in the field of emotional research, argued in his 1999 work that tenderness is a fundamental emotion that many neglect, which balances both the need for care, affection, empathy and the need for closeness with which to gain safety and attention.
Tenderness is first and foremostic an act of outcasting and the most authentic expression of affection.
Does this allow us to incorporate knowledge in which it acquires the simple?Finally, this more dignified and wise essence that breaks artifice, selfishness and materialism, to find skin with skin and heart with heart before the beloved.
However, there is one aspect that we cannot forget. It takes a good dose of inner peace, emotional maturity and self-awareness. Because to love with passion and honor with tenderness you have to offer the best of yourself, and that will never be possible as long as we flee again.
On the other hand, another aspect to consider about the daily exercise of tenderness is that it is not expressed only through the most intimate moments, in the art of sexuality this dimension is expressed in the body sphere, however, those wiser people who commit to give For affection know that tenderness is intimacy, is the desire to recreate in the language of affection to please the heart of the other.
None of us have been taught the principles of love that do not hurt, which allows us to grow. They did not show us or teach us in a book, but we saw and lived a childhood in which every child enters the world of affections, more or less appropriately.
Tenderness is the most powerful, fundamental link to strengthen a healthier and stronger bond between a child and his parents, it is also the most important emotional support for a child, we subsequently assimilate these meanings, gestures and rituals of affection with our loved ones.
This shows us that tenderness must be present throughout our life cycle, because care, care, and affection reveal a just education of feelings.
Practicing them without reluctance or fear, our way of communication becomes more skillful, we know how to choose words to delve into our eyes, we are wise architects of this closeness that nurtures affection, erases fears and drowns doubts, because there is nothing more powerful. Than a hug when your loved one needs it most, but it’s even better when it’s offered for no particular reason, just because the heart asks for it.
Therefore, we already know the importance of educating ourselves in the domain of affectivity and training in the school of tenderness, only in this way can we build stronger and more meaningful bonds, because believe it or not, the one that really gives strength. and the stimulus to love is the tenderness, care and affection that lurk in the simplest and most basic things of daily life.
The expression of tenderness, and we cannot forget it, is gentle, delicate and courageous, because it also forces us to open the trunk of our own essences to our beloved, without fear, we let ourselves be known without walls or defenses, to plan any path and thus offer a more complete and exceptional encounter.
Why is tenderness, after all, what makes the old man live, who sleeps the child and disarms man?