Loving oneself is part of a fundamental process in our lives, which will allow us to love others more sincerely.
This process lasts a lifetime, because many circumstances continually test us: disappointments, frustrations, mistakes made, goals not achieved, layoffs, desans; various everyday difficulties to which we submit and let them influence us in our perception of our personal worth.
? Love yourself
it’s the beginning of an adventure
that lasts a lifetime?.
? Oscar Wilde?
Personal worth does not depend on your accomplishments or assets, but on the attitude with which you perform each stage of life, so that you can love yourself unconditionally.
It is very difficult to give what you do not have, and if a person is not loved, can hardly love others, you may think that you are in love, when in fact you will fall continuously in the manipulation, demand and emotional blackmail of others.
If the person has not learned to love himself unconditionally, he will seek that love outside of himself, in others, making his worth depend on how others treat or appreciate him, so the person is totally exposed to an external evaluation.
This type of addiction damages until it becomes common to ask for love and affection; attract attention and perform complacent behaviors to get the look, approach and care of others.
To find out if you love yourself unconditionally, it’s important to ask yourself this question:
My personal worth depends
external causes?
In our culture, it is very common to give more importance to the outside world and what is happening around us to make an impression.
In fact, the fact that you like them is often seen as a selfish act. It is a totally false belief, because loving others begins with love for oneself, forming, in turn, a part of universal love and love of humanity.
The way we take care of ourselves has a lot to do with how we perceive ourselves and the mood we find ourselves in, not taking care of ourselves involves aggression and lack of listening to one’s needs.
“Taking care of you means being considerate of yourself. Listen to your own needs. Recognize that we exist and occupy a place in the world and that we have the right to feel good, to seek our well-being in all areas of our existence. “. ?
? Fina Sanz?
Integrating mutual care into our lives allows us to meet our needs without putting others above them. For that, it is essential to know and question them, what would it mean to learn to take care of yourself?
Accepting who we are means accepting ourselves with our faults, discovering the skills and limitations, skills, virtues and resources we have, accepting the whole that forms us from a global and profound perspective.
Better self-known
implies a better understanding.
When you take care of yourself and understand yourself, you can’t judge yourself or blame yourself for the mistakes you’ve made, so you take the path of accepting who you are.
Through acceptance, you approach unconditional love as an act of compassion and understanding of what it is. Therefore, your own requirements will not limit your ability to love others.
This way, honestly, you can build relationships that aren’t based on recognition search. When you love yourself, you can really give up on the fact that you can also love other people in a compassionate way through acceptance.
“All growth needs love, but unconditional love. If love imposes conditions, growth cannot be total because these conditions will overlap. Love unconditionally, do not ask for anything in return. Will you receive much without asking? Are you going to do? But not be a beggar. In love, be emperor. Give and see what happens: you will receive a thousand times more. But you have to learn the trick. Otherwise, you will remain a miser; you will give a little and hope to receive something, and this expectation and expectation will destroy all the beauty of their actions?
? Osho?
Bibliography consulted
? Sanz, F. (1995). The bonds of love: love from identity in re reunion therapy. Kairs.