This may seem like an incongruity, but it is a daily reality: there are loves that hurt, that stray excessively from the virtues of love.
Undoubtedly, it is the most visceral damage that we inflict: thoughts, insecurities, fears that constantly appear in our hearts, influencing our daily lives.
- Therefore.
- If the person herself does not love himself properly and does not care.
- Her projection to her loved ones will not be the best.
- Emotional inefficiency will continually harm the people she loves most.
The emotional basis is still in us. Care and know are jobs that we must incorporate into our daily to-do list.
When we give our love to others, we sometimes forget about their recipients, the different feelings that come to us are amplified and their mismanagement will make it difficult to enjoy love.
A likely response is the ability to distort our loved one, as well as our own fears and insecurities. Here are some examples of loves that hurt:
? Exaggerated protective instinct. For many parents this feeling is born and develops throughout the life of their children, which at first can be a natural emotion, becomes over time a wall where ideas and illusions collide, oh no ?, it becomes the main weapon, which serves to overcome our fears, without knowing or listening to the emotions of our children For example. This way of loving brings a misunderstanding and a null capacity for communication that will, over time, fall upon us.
? Inability to put yourself in each other’s place. This concept needs broader development, because it is one of the most important psychological concepts that man can develop and that predicts many situations of life. To love is to understand the other, his son, his wife, his husband, etc. find out what the person presents or not, their feelings, how they solve and who they are. We are not perfect and must open our capacity for reflection to all. Whether you agree or not, it will help us love people and get to know them in a broader sense. Putting ourselves on the other side generates a rewarding view of the emotional relationships we maintain and positively supports a healthy love for others.
Love hurts when what we give is poisoned by our own ghosts. The act of loving must be honest and shadow-free, otherwise we will add pain to a feeling whose role it is to accompany and support our loved ones throughout our lives.