Among the desires and aspirations of most people is being loved and appreciated by someone; But how is someone going to love you if you’re not able to love you?This topic is usually complex, partly because it is very extensive, and on the other hand, because it can become very subjective, but it is really simple. Oscar Wilde understood this perfectly: “Loving yourself is the beginning of a romance that will last forever. “
This appreciation is subjective, because often people tend to belittle themselves, to blindly believe that they need others to be happy, or worse, they constantly need someone else’s approval to feel good about themselves, and this, my friends, is a rude thing that has been instilled in us since childhood.
- Remember that it is common to give children a set of rules or obligations.
- Contrary to their nature.
- Which must be imposed by stimuli – both negative and positive – their duty to adapt to the norms of society.
- And that it is more important not to disturb.
- Annoy or annoy others than to be really satisfied with who you are.
- For example.
- Talking to a child about your drawing: don’t paint blue cows.
- There are no cows like that and they could never exist.
- You have to paint them.
- As they are.
Besides, the constant threat of? It is said that this greatly limits every individual who chooses to live under this premise. In addition to being impossible to please “people,” it turns out that we don’t teach two other lessons: the first is that of “people. “to please us, that is, not only respect others, but others must respect us in the same way; and the second is that there is something called an individual and that is who we are, so we have the right to live according to our own values, desires and aspirations, and that must be respected.
And what is the meaning of this discourse of individual thought and social pressures?Easy, because society has always pushed a person to marry at a certain age and with children. It is an veiled request; Anyone over the age of 20, in meetings or conversations with the most moral, will hear the typical question: and when do you plan to get married?
With such situations, many rush to marry or establish relationships with their loved ones or make them feel loved, but the truth is that it is a big mistake, so the current divorce rate is so high. unable to accept themselves, they do not allow themselves a margin of error and are rigid in their lives, so they expect exactly the same thing from others, especially those with whom they have chosen to share their lives, but if they do not love and accept each other. How are you doing, how do you expect someone else to love you?
Laugh, make mistakes, learn from your mistakes, drop a laugh when something goes wrong; Life is to live, to be appreciated and to try to comply with insignificant norms (many of them do not really have a logical basis) the time we must devote to introspection, to know each other, to respect us and to love us as we are, to recognize our virtues (because we all have virtues) and when that happens?that we love each other properly?the right person who will love us for who we are, without masking and without hiding parts of our nature, Appear.
Image courtesy of Ken Bosma.