There are magical people who delight us from the first minute we know them, we do not know exactly why, but in this gray world your presence is that colorful stain that attracts us, brightens us and reconciles us with life. let’s say it may be your smile, your attitude or your welcoming personality, but we think that your natural virtues are magical traits, something inexplicable.
Dale Carnegie’s name may not sound familiar, however, this entrepreneur and writer of the 1930s laid the groundwork for all self-help publications that still are in high demand today. One of his best-known and best-selling publications was, without a doubt, how to earn friends and influence people.
- There are people with natural magic who don’t need things.
- There are special people we love in the “first minute”.
- For their humility.
- For their natural simplicity.
In this book, the writer addresses for the first time one of the greatest aspirations (whether we like it or not) of the human being, “to be well accepted by others”. From the 1930s to the present day, interest in this discipline of psychology has only grown. In fact, today and in the field of coaching, every good professional needs to know how to train their clients with these basic and essential tools necessary to generate a positive impact on their social environment.
However, the curious thing about all this is that there are magical people who were born with this skill, with this natural ability to connect almost instantly with others, causing positive emotions, confidence and security, this instant, spontaneous and fruitful spark is like an invisible diamond that any good leader, for example, would like to have to attract more people.
It is a tool that anyone with few social skills would like to develop to enjoy better relationships, a better life, where they can make more friends, find a partner and feel, in essence, more confident. It is a very important psychological dimension for the field of personal growth and deserves to be analyzed in detail.
Wanting to be well accepted by everyone around us is an inexhaustible source of suffering, it does not make sense, it is not useful and much less healthy, however, there are people who without any effort, without research or intention, are able to connect. almost instantly with 80% of the people they meet on a daily basis.
Many would not hesitate to say that the explanation is in physical attractiveness. Now, professionals who choose people for ads or microphones for some NGOs know that something else is needed, something present in nonverbal language or even what many call “art. “meekness. ” That is, the virtue of having an open and welcoming attitude that helps us reach those who preceded us in a friendly, safe and effective way.
Now let’s look at other features besides people. Well accepted? Share:
We are all perfectly capable of simulating a smile. We can give others the most spectacular and captivating smiles, but what lies behind is often the most blunt of lies.
There is a type of smile that is difficult to simulate and is considered the synthesis of an authentic smile. We’re talking about Duchenne’s smile.
There are a number of situations that cause immediate tension, for example, those people we do not know who come before us telling us everything about their private life, criticizing others who are not present, being indiscreet, excessively playful or making excessive and abusive use. of the personal pronoun “Eu”.
We have all lived it once in our lives, but at the opposite pole there are those who want nothing and achieve everything, are people who, by their natural humility, instantly love us for a series of traits, by brushstrokes capable of forming a magical and exceptional personal canvas.
Do humble people know how to be careful, show sincere interest in those with whom they live, know how to listen to us, and receive us in the warm waters of their sincere gazes?
Although there are many magical people with their own star or light who were born with these resources recorded on their “hard drive”, it is important to say something: all these qualities can be trained. It is also true that I do not need to “be accepted by all”, but it is very rewarding to be able to connect better with certain people.
Therefore, working these characteristics in our day-to-day life will certainly help us to understand each other beyond the eyes, to settle down without asking permission in the hearts of the people we care about.