Make no mistake: I am alone, but I do not feel the emptiness of loneliness, do not feel compelled to sympathize with me, do not label me and much less try to find me a companion, I am where I want to be. Because being alone is so much smarter than sharing your life with the wrong person.
As we see, the solitude sought or necessary at any given time is a very misunderstood social aspect, in fact even Aristotle used to say that only the gods or beasts like to be alone, yet the French moralists of the eighteenth century, such as the Marquis of Vauvenargues, explained that loneliness is what is the regime of the soul for the soul for the soul : something that we must practice from time to time.
- “I’m writing to tell you I’ll get you rid of me.
- Better” Amputation?You of me.
- Be happy and never look for me again.
- I don’t want to hear from you anymore.
- Or do you want to know more about me.
- ?- Letter from Frida Khalo to Diego Rivera-.
Learning to be alone and enjoying it from time to time is something that we should indeed all do, in fact, those who do not have to face the difficult task of filling spaces, healing fears and relieving insecurities in the worst way: occupying the lives of others or wanting the first person to pass before them, often.
“Now I’m alone, but I’m fine. ” This phrase, although increasingly common, continues to reveal a certain need to justify itself, to specify that even living alone, without a partner or without anyone by your side, is a pleasant loneliness A chosen experience that we enjoy, even if others do not understand it.
Times are changing, that’s for sure. However, the image of a single woman is not perceived in the same way as that of a man without a partner, it is as if time passed faster for them, as if they were rushing to do everything as fast as possible to adapt to the situation. Socially imposed biological clock: you have to have a good job, find a good partner and become a great mom right away.
But, as they say, times are changing and women are no longer so obsessed with research, many prefer to be found. Others set aside biological clocks to continue their own mental and emotional compasses. They may find satisfaction with a couple, no doubt, but if that relationship fails, they can continue on their own path. Because they’re responsible for themselves, because they’re not. fear of loneliness. It’s an encounter with yourself, and it’s always healing. Always comforting.
When we have a friend we always try to find you an opportunity to meet someone, it is said that it is not good to be alone, that falling in love is always worth it and that life is much prettier walking hand in hand with someone.
Loneliness sometimes creates an addiction. When you realize how much peace there is, you stop wanting to deal with people. -Carl Gustav Jung-
But is it very likely that this friend will say, Am I alone and okay?And let our friend respond, now I don’t want to know anything about it, some will understand and most will see it with reservations. because, in general, loneliness is not seen as viable, but as bad luck.
If we think about it for a moment, we will realize that in reality, we are never alone, life surrounds us, besides, most of us have our own group, family, friends, companions, etc. , a companion does not always save. us of loneliness, nor is he there for her. Sometimes this brings us even for the first time to the darkest abyss of this dimension, such as emotional loneliness.
No one is alone if they learn to love each other. Because we all inhabit our minds, because thinking, dreaming, projecting and feeling is anything but a solitary gesture, we are dancers in our own inner world, we are healers, executors of forgiveness and craftsmen of our destinies.
So make no mistake, I am not alone because life unites me, because my hopes are shattered, I have ceased to be afraid of fear, I am a tenant satisfied with my interior spaces and I visualize the future without anxiety, knowing how to enjoy my present.
We should all be able to revel from time to time in those moments of chosen loneliness, silence and inner peace that bring the fruits of the soul to fruit.