Am I 19 or not? It is true that these questions have harassed you several times, causing many doubts, putting you between two or more options. Looks like we’re at a crossroads and it’s hard to make a decision.
Sometimes these questions are quite normal. When we face a situation that can change our lives, it is normal for doubts to arise.
“Waiting hurts. Forgetting hurts. But the worst suffering is not knowing what decision to make.
-Paulo Coelho-
Doubt often indicates that we underestimate ourselves, that we block ourselves when we have to make a decision, that we may be afraid of responsibility. . . behind the doubt you can hide many things.
People who have a lot of doubts when making a decision don’t want to take that responsibility, but is it possible?Currently, yes. There are several options you can choose not to face the fear of making this decision, including leaving that responsibility to others.
The best thing you can do is let others decide for it or “copy” the decisions of close friends or relatives. This demonstrates their insecurity and inability to make decisions; believe that the other has more decision-making capacity.
“I was hesitant, now I’m not so sure. “
-Woody Allen-
When you avoid making decisions, you can become two types of people that complement each other perfectly:
? An indecisive person who avoids making decisions and taking risks not to leave his comfort zone, is very shy, suspicious and isolates heses himself from others.
? A person who doubts everything and everyone, that generates a lot of anxiety because you never know how to choose the right option.
As we said earlier, these two types of people complement each other; they are very afraid and anxious. When they are forced to make a decision, do they feel frustrated and guilty, because perhaps the other option would be better?
Unsafe people, who struggle to make decisions, cannot live in this situation of fear and anxiety forever. In their daily lives they act as follows:
? Avoid conflict
? Do you avoid being the center of attention?
? Don’t tolerate negative feelings
? Avoid intimacy
Behind these behaviors are many motives: fear of rejection, being criticized or humiliated, very authoritarian parents, etc. In most cases, they have low self-esteem.
But today is the day we’re going to get out of this situation!And we can go! Take a chance, trust yourself, and believe we can make mistakes or do things; and then make the decision you really want.
When making a decision it is important to consult with your friends or family, but not to make decisions for you, they can show you another point of view, to support you or not, it is important to share your decisions without them interfering with them.
If you make a decision and make a mistake, no problem. Choose another path, you can change it whenever you want. We all make mistakes and this is something we have to accept and accept. Perfection doesn’t exist.
“Making decisions is how we can get from where we are to where we want to be. “
-Bernardo Stamateas-
Set a deadline for your decision, even if you already have it, don’t leave everything for the ‘last minute’. Deciding at the last moment can cause anxiety; do everything calmly.
A good decision is the one you choose for sure, thinking about the subject, thinking about the future, where you want to go and what you want to achieve, something realistic, that you are able to achieve, this decision will be good even if it fails, because you have chosen for sure. If it didn’t work, patience! Learn from your mistakes and try again.