Sometimes the first love does not arrive in the right order, there are relationships that form in middle age, allowing us to discover magical and unexpected people in the arms of which we like to take refuge, because they feel the home and their kisses know. like sugar and fire at the same time. Because mature love does not understand age, it is worthy, vital and energizing.
A common fact in many of these cases where such important relationships are consolidated in middle age is that one of the members was quite sure that in his case, the doors of love had been closed forever. Sometimes we store sentimental failures so heartbreaking that we feel that our own heart, already turned into stone, has fallen to the bottom of a well.
- Mature loves are found in the middle of the afternoon of life.
- They are free people.
- Quiet at heart and rich in thoughts.
- Because in their faces smiles and desire to continue to love dance.
- Because sometimes the first great love does not come.
- In the right order.
There’s also an important point. Not all people, simply because they are 50 or 60 years old, are able to build a mature, conscious and happy love, there are many bitter hearts that have not purged their feathers, who have not been able to make this inner journey able to forgive and make past experiences of renewed paths to move forward with hope.
Because personal maturity is not for years, nor for harm, but because of the attitude and wisdom of emotions where not everyone got their doctorate, their master’s degree, we invite you to think about it.
When we reach this age when decades have already brought us more stories than we could tell, sometimes we look like those ripe fruits slightly bruised in the corners, now we must remember that ripe fruits taste much sweeter and nicer than they are. very green, firm and slightly bitter.
Our experiences are not a drag. On the contrary, no one should be the result of their disappointments, their failures, let alone the injuries others have caused. We are our attitude to everything we have experienced, never a simple result. Therefore, mature love adds to the feeling a dose of wisdom in order to build what really matters: a happy gift, a worthy and passionate gift in which to discover oneself.
None of the members renounce their past, they are simply accepted, as are the bare skins inhabited by some scars, wrinkles made by time on these faces and in these perfectly imperfect bodies where, obviously, decades and disappointments do not matter either. the pleasure of here and now.
Francesco Alberoni is a renowned sociologist specializing in relationships who has given us interesting books such as “Passion and Love”. According to him, human beings have not yet understood the mechanisms of genuine and lasting love. Many get carried away by this chemistry, shipwreck which is passion, the need for each other, but few manage to understand that, above all, to love is to know how to build.
Love is ageless, because the heart has no wrinkles, because love, if intense and pure, is always young.
Middle-aged loves already know more than it is to be in love, so what they crave at this stage of life is something much deeper and at the same time delicate, they want intimacy, the two-eye complicity that is understood. wordless, to enjoy the common spaces respecting the individuality of each one. They aspire to a strong and noble bond in which to work and invest every day for this implicit but present covenant: love.
Erich Fromm said that love is an art. It is not only a pleasant relationship, one that certainly brings us our own passion, where there is virtually no need to do anything, just feel, let yourself be carried away, breathe, dream and drop into the depths of desire.
Loving is an art because it requires effort, it is like shape a sculpture or a canvas where each brushstroke is fundamental to give perspective, body and beauty to this work. Mature love, which occurs when one leaves youth, is very capable of drawing each one. movement with subtle perfection because he is a good craftsman of emotions, because you no longer need to prove anything and you know very well what you want.
Because authentic people build authentic, full and fulfilling loves, no matter then that the first love has not come in the right order, after all, life has a wonderfully chaotic touch and we have no choice but to let ourselves be carried away. as we move forward with dreams and with an always active heart, always young.