Memories are like the waves of the sea, come and go, whimsical, tell us a moment of the past: a voice, a smell, a sound, a moment marked by sadness or joy?We are full of memories that determine and build, are our roots and trace who we are: beings that experience, grow, mature and learn.
Memories are images of the past that are stored in memory, reproductions that occur at a given time, to which we usually give an interpretation and that usually carry a certain emotional burden These two concepts?Memory/emotion? They are so close that sometimes, the simple fact of feeling happy, frightened or sad implies that almost always will arise a certain memory of the past, emotional reactions that demonstrate the great weight that memories have on our personality. .
- But.
- As Cervantes said.
- “O memory.
- Mortal enemy of my rest.
- ” sometimes memories also make us suffer.
- There may come a time when we will become too close to a certain memory until we move away from our reality and responsibilities.
- Falling.
- For example.
- Into a depression or a nervous breakdown.
- The problem is not looking back and remembering.
- The problem is living continuously in the past.
- This can lead to a fear of the present and the challenges that life gives us.
- Anchoring in the past provides a sense of permanent security.
- But it is not a real or mature situation.
- You always have to take it into account.
Good memories are often used in psychology to create links to meaningful personal experiences from our past. Anything that has a positive burden that we experience at some point in our lives has the potential to fill us with courage and courage in the present. Behind all this is that good memories can be used to improve our current resources.
This situation often shows us that we are not so far from where we want to be, but that we already have some of the solution in our experimentation chest, we have so-called mirror neurons, which in addition to fostering our empathy and understanding, allow us to connect with a memory of our brain, recreating the same state lived at the time of origin, whether pleasant or unpleasant , in this way, and if, for example, we want to learn to be more assertive, they will help us to remember the moments in which we act safely and ingenuly, reconnecting with the positive sensations that this behavior that we want to improve has produced.
In addition, we can also learn to relive our pleasant memories and benefit from the positive effects of remembering a situation in which we live as satisfying, exciting or motivating. Moreover, if we continually evoke good memories that help us strengthen our current coping resources, we can create a self-sufficient system of protection and well-being.
The more we feel the good things that have happened in our lives, the more we recharge our positive energy batteries, this positive energy not only makes us feel good, but also increases the chance that we can react with less depression in the face. negative events This is what we call resilience in psychology.
In this way, we can conclude by saying that, although we should not live memories, memories help us to live.