Has the work of psychologists been attacked over and over again and on many fronts?for our sadness, not always unfairly. He suffers from popular myths, internal debates, different currents, ignorance or audacity of those who proclaim wisdom without knowing. Not to mention professional opportunism, model reproduction or great laziness for establishing a solid methodological basis before starting a survey. This problem had no trivial consequences: it directly affected the social concept of mental disorder and all people living with a certain type of disorder.
In addition, in psychology there is a false paradox of learning through involvement, no friend would think of having appendicitis without studying medicine, for many days he suffered from the disease, however few people write about depression. , validating their speech or recipe about the suffering they once managed to leave behind. They even believe that a model, for them logical, based on personal experiences, is perfectly applicable to all. What should you do? (and add whatever you want).
Is it tempting to complete the prayer?
Until recently it was considered normal to those who sought the advice of a friend and who knocked on the psychologist’s door as crazy, consultations, diagnoses and interventions were camouflaged because the dust was hiding under the carpet when visitors arrived, was the fear associated with confession Fear of rejection, that of becoming the center of neighborhood gossip?or, in the modern world, on social media or in groups of messages.
Fortunately, this is changing and the psychology professional seems to get closer and closer to ‘normal life’. Isn’t mental health just a guarantee of professional success anymore?This emotional intelligence story or the ability to defer rewards as indicators of success. Today it goes further, because it is a source of well-being, being and feeling good is an investment, just as we do in our body, at the most physical level, doing sport or taking care of food.
The people who have lived through this dark period of psychology, the most affected, are those who suffer from some mental disorder, let’s take an example to understand it better. It’s not original, I extracted it from a dialogue in Lousie Penny’s novel Still Life, highly recommended for any reader who likes police novels.
The first paragraph looks like this
“A few years ago, I was a psychologist in Montreal. La most people knocked on my door because they had gone through a crisis, and most of those crises were losses: loss of a marriage or a major relationship, loss of security, work, home, a father or mother. Something made them ask for help and look inside. And often the trigger was change or loss.
? And they’re the same thing?
“They can be the same for a person who doesn’t have time to adapt easily.
I have gathered this testimony from this literary psychologist because it largely reflects a superficial social perception, I say superficially because the common denominator, the impulse to seek help, is not born of loss, but of suffering.
Suffering that, on the one hand, is not reserved for those who do not find it easy to adapt; on the other hand, the use of a resource, such as consulting a psychologist, is a sign of adaptation in most cases.
Dialogue continues and reaches the most interesting and dangerous point. The novel’s psychologist/librarian says: “After twenty-five years listening to his complaints, I finally closed the doors. I woke up one morning and saw something that fit with a 45-year-old client acting like I was sixteen.
Every week I came with the same regrets: “Someone hurt me, life is not fair, it’s not my fault. “I spent three years proposing things to him, and all this time he didn’t do anything. Then, that day, listening to him, I suddenly understood: it didn’t change because I didn’t want to, I didn’t mean to, we were going to keep doing the same farce for another twenty years and, at that moment, I realized that most of my clients were exactly the same?
In this sense, he is wrong to refer to a myth: the premise that those who find no relief – remedy – to a mental disorder do not do so because of the absence of desire or will. situation are powerful enough to defeat any attempt at intervention, i. e. does suffering not get to the point of making the patient/client/person think?adopt changes that make your customs/habits/dynamics more adaptable.
We are talking about a very dangerous conceptualization of mental disorder, either by default or on request, this way of seeing reality ends up placing the patient/client/person as guilty of his failure in healing, so, being guilty/responsible, he would not. be worthy of the attention you can receive from the environment or the resources that the system can make available to you.
“When will it change?” several think. This is perhaps one of the most perverse phrases.