There are many ways to express to others who we are or what we really feel. We can describe, explain what we want, or try to hide what we feel; however, the choices we make, what we do and how we denounce ourselves and expose ourselves to the world as we are.
Sometimes we use words as a disguise and try, sometimes without much result, for the costume to disguise what we don’t want others to see, other times we are not even aware that our actions and words contradict each other.
- We shorten the time by making decisions.
- Some insignificant and others more important.
- Sometimes the paths we take are in line with what we say and think.
- While other times.
- We say and live very distantly.
When we do and say something that is online, it cannot be confused, we reinforce the verbal message with a coherent nonverbal message, the communication is clear and the other person will be able to understand us without further difficulties.
Doubts and confusion arise when we verbally send a message, not verbally send another, it is like saying yes with the mouth at the same time that you make negative movements with your head, this contradiction baffles those who listen to us and see us, generates uncertainty and a mixture of feelings.
When a double message is transmitted, the recipient faces a dilemma. Because of this dual intent and contradiction, regardless of what you do, the receiver will work against what the other person says or wants.
When words and deeds contradict each other, it is acts that have the power to reveal true intentions. Look what the other person is doing, not what they’re saying: this is what best describes the other person’s motivations. it’s not a sure assumption, it will certainly statistically increase our likelihood of doing it right.
This principle can also be applied to get to know each other better, in the face of a dilemma or doubt about what to do or what we really want, we can look at and analyze the actions we have taken so far. observe psychologists, and the same goes for doctors and other professionals.
As if to know the true intentions of the other person, we will observe what he is doing, to know our own motivations, we will observe both what we think and what we do.
Being aware of the decisions we make and the actions we take brings us closer to personal self-awareness, knowing our true motivations will help us solve dilemmas and move in the right direction in times of crisis.
If we don’t reinforce the message of our words with actions, they’re empty. To say that we are in favor of a cause, click the button?Posting on a social network or approving an idea, for the most part, is not enough.
What to do and say must go hand in hand. We must be consistent with our ideas and act accordingly, and not be in contrascricisive in expressing ourselves verbally and not verbally.
Is it important to be aware of the decisions we make? Or are we not responsible for it? Reflecting on what we say and do helps us challenge our thinking and act in a more coherent and integrated way with our values.