Although we live in a time when many taboos about family and marital life have already been broken, many myths about singles persist curiously. The truth is, until recently, single life was a kind of failure. Normal? It was supposed and desirable to find someone, start a family and live happily ever after.
The fact is that it is becoming increasingly clear that life as a couple and as a family is not synonymous with success, it is also possible to fail as a couple and as a family and, in fact, the effects of disappointment in these cases are more distant. -achieving This began to destroy myths about singles.
- Of course.
- Couple life can offer us a lot.
- But that doesn’t mean it’s essential.
- That’s why many people around the world choose not to live up to these commitments; however.
- There are still myths about singles.
- Such as the following.
“The sensible thing to say about marriage and celibacy is this: whatever you do, you will regret it” – Agatha Christie-
This is one of the most common myths about singles, it is thought that not living with someone generates a kind of bitterness, is it a fact that love?And above all the first phase, passion? It is a state, in essence, of euphoria and enthusiasm.
However, the couples who live together do not spend their whole lives in an eternal passion, there are many adaptations to make, but also a multitude of moments of bitterness that must be overcome.
The same goes for a person, they can be as happy or unhappy as a married person, it all depends on how you manage your resources and your situation.
Living alone does not mean being alone, just as living as a couple does not necessarily mean feeling accompanied, we are alone to a certain extent and the bonds we establish with others alleviate this loneliness, but do not completely cancel it.
A single person may feel less alone than a person living as a couple. Sometimes marriage limits spouses’ social relationships. Attention is basically directed, on many occasions, to husband or wife and children, thus minimizing the importance of friendships or the extended family.
Singles, on the other hand, have ample opportunity to create several important bonds.
It’s one of those singles myths that still exists because part of the idea that bachelorette is a handicap. Some have not yet realized that many men and women in the world have freely and consciously decided not to live as a Couple.
This is because today’s life forms have become much more diverse. There are those who want to spend their whole lives traveling; others are very focused on their professional lives; There are also those who simply haven’t found a person to motivate them to radically change their way of life.
Singles don’t necessarily want to be with someone
Bella DePaulo, a phD in psychology at Harvard University, has written a book entitled Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized and Ignored, and Still Live Happily.
In this book, there are several interesting facts about myths about singles. It indicates, for example, that 30% of married people are available to help friends and other family, as well as humanitarian causes. , this percentage is 70%.
The word, Single? Or “old” has a pejorative hue and usually mark those who reach a certain age and have not yet married. However, the truth is that this label is part of an anachronistic mentality.
On the other hand, the idea that, if someone gets single, “probably doesn’t come out of the closet” is widespread.
In both cases, it’s just a prejudice, what was there before?Strange? Today, it’s a growing trend.
DePaulo’s work shows that today, for the first time in history, there are more single women than married women in Britain: 51%; in the United States, they correspond to 41%. In countries like Chile, they are close to 30%.
It’s not good to be single if you want to live as a couple. Nor is it good to get married simply because of the prejudice that it’s “the right one. “We live in a much more flexible time, when these mental patterns are becoming less and less important.