We will rarely hear a parent admit that their children are physically or emotionally assaulting them. It is a taboo, a face of violence that is protected from public light with the motto that “dirty laundry must be washed at home”. violence, low self-esteem or lack of educational resources on the part of parents themselves and increased narcissism among children.
However, research that has delved a little deeper into the subject shows a devastating reality, its conclusions are clear: child violence against their parents is becoming more frequent, intense and precocious, but where does this increase in adolescent violence against their parents come from?
- A recent study of Spanish adolescents analyzed the factors that favor the onset of this type of domestic violence.
- The data collected and their subsequent analysis show that exposure to domestic violence.
- Lack of communication and permissive education generate narcissistic adolescents who physically or verbally assaulted parents.
Researchers explain that many teenagers who assaulted their parents were mistreated by them as minors, so exposure to violence within the family seems to be one of the decisive elements in validating this resource as a good educational tool.
However, at other times it is the lack of emotional and positive communication between parents and children and/or the lack of quality time dedicated to children that triggers violent attitudes.
A permissive attitude on the part of parents who do not impose limits can also cause violent reactions from young people.
The results show that exposure to violence in the first year of study coincided with assaults on parents in the third year. Similarly, a distant relationship between parents and children in the first year of study was linked to a narcissistic attitude among teenagers in the second year and assaults on parents.
According to the researchers, teaching and education practices are the key to preventing narcissism and violent attitudes among adolescents, if parents do not raise their children with a sense of responsibility and respect, it is easy for them to acquire their own model according to society in the absence of an older model. A model in which there is no frustration or imperfection and in which, therefore, every adolescent should look for a way out as he can.
However, the behavior of parents is not the only element, the temperament of children is another important element, some children are more impulsive and learn more easily about violent behaviors, as it is an easy way to deal with the setbacks presented to them. parents or life in general can present.
Narcissistic teens tend to feel frustrated and rejected. When this happens, are screams and insults the first thing?Before, during or after physical aggression. Researchers explain that, for this reason, when parents realize that their child is escaping previously agreed compliance rules, they should establish an educational and restorative dialogue that will root out this behavior.
The researchers explain that the age group of 13 to 15 years is critical to the adolescent’s position or tyrescent in the face of aggression, whether directed at parents, other people or objects; they also point out that while there are no gender differences in the manifestation of this aggression, there is particularly marked growth among girls.
Once aggressive behavior has occurred in adolescents, treatment should aim to reduce their narcissism of themselves, so the team suggests that the solution should include education on respect and tolerance to frustration, as well as prevent exposure of sons and daughters. violence.