The needs are fed by small alarms that appear in me in order to satisfy them. Once I have met them I feel complete, full, calm and can move on to address other needs that arise. It is essential for our mental, physical and emotional health to listen to, identify and channel them. Otherwise, associated physical or psychological disorders usually occur.
Can they be of various types: physiological, existential, emotional? And everyone talks about something that’s important to us, they’re our alarm of authenticity, so to speak. They are closely linked to our true essence and we must therefore be able to identify them in order to solve them.
- But.
- As human beings.
- We are sometimes a little complicated.
- And we take care of amputating parts of this cycle of satisfaction needs.
- Have we tried?Deaf ears? To an alarm.
- Or complete it in half because we don’t know how to separate ourselves from the object that helps us satisfy it.
There are many ways not to complete this cycle, and they all have to do with the resistances and fears that prevent us from doing what we really need to do, we cannot deny our nature or forget that sometimes there are needs that we want to do. fulfill, but social or ethical conventions will delay our attempt.
Human beings are very complex, is there an animal instinct?Intense and primary that survives within us and that we cannot deny, and there is an ethics and morality that underlies much of our culture that we cannot ignore either. We need to find a balance in ourselves and know when we are being held for one reason or another.
Complicated? It’s an interesting way to listen to yourself as honestly as possible and see how our decisions are influenced by many reasons, reasons that, as I said, can range from a purely animal instinct to a cultural instinct.
The satisfaction cycle consists of 7 successive steps
It’s the perception of imbalance. Therefore, our body needs it to restore balance and be able to satisfy our body, an example could be when we feel discomfort in the intestines because we are hungry, or when we simply notice a strange sensation that already puts us on alert to keep an eye on it. .
When we realize this feeling, we identify our need. Following the example above, I realize that my intestines are trying to communicate, so I’m hungry. Oh, okay! My intestines made noise because I was hungry. Or can we, to give another example, realize that we are lonely and that we need to get in touch with someone dear?
Once I’ve identified myself and realized my need, I move on to the next step and start moving. My body absorbs this energy that pushes me to do something important to me. “Oh, I’m hungry, so I can go to the kitchen. ? Or, if in the example above we had become aware of our need to contact someone else. “, now we can know who we want to contact and this mobilizing energy will help us take the next step.
At this stage, as we are already trained to perform the action, we must do so, we are aware of what we need and we will solve it, we decide to call our friend because he is the person we like to be in touch with.
In contact, we can finally meet our need. If we were hungry and went to the kitchen to look for that food that satiated us, now is the time that we can finally eat, it is now that we also contact our friend and have the conversation we need, we are aware that this contact relieves for a moment our loneliness.
At this point, we appreciate the contact we had. We are pleased to savor the experience we have just lived. I was able to accomplish what my body asked me to do and I’m happy with that. It’s a fun time to have achieved what you wanted.
After this wonderful experience that fed me so much, I retire, I need to rest from that contact. I bid farewell to my friend, bid farewell to what so much joy and serenity have brought me, but, oh my God!?How complicated is it sometimes to detach from what fills us so much, to separate from who filled this void?
As you can see, in each of these 7 steps, I can have problems and, in turn, I can amputate the whole cycle without completing it. Why? For fears, for anticipation of disasters, for having deep-rooted beliefs about how to do things, cultural and ethical reasons, etc.
The important thing is to be aware of these needs that we all have and that often have to do with love (that vital need to establish a relationship with another being, in which we give and receive affection), safely (the lack of security in ourselves). this provokes feelings of fear, anguish, anguish, to be heard) and freedom (lack of freedom angers us, we feel trapped).
So, as you can see, meeting our needs is not a whim, it’s about protecting ourselves, especially when we talk about lack of love, security and freedom. Then we won’t be deaf to these feelings! This way we can start and complete the entire cycle.