How many times have we thought it wasn’t worth it?There’s always something going on against you; Good gestures are not always accompanied by recognition. And it’s not just recognition, you’ve often noticed that your actions aren’t even perceived by others.
When our act of kindness is not perceived by people, frustration and helplessness hurt our bodies and feelings, especially when this situation persists over time and happens to the people we love the most, yet people who like to care for and do good should not lose this instinct of “love”?and be careful with others just because they are not perceived by others.
“Goodness is the only investment that never fails. “Henry David Thoreau?
The? The Theory of the Righteous World explicitly expresses a cognitive bias that we all use in one way or another to process information. We often expect to receive the same attention we give to others, as if it were an exact mathematical operation. We hope to always get what we’re looking for, they deserve, but that doesn’t always happen. How good it would be if this world were a just ecosystem, with clear laws telling us in advance what to expect. However, this is not the case.
The world is not fair. The world surprises us with its balance of power and the scale of priority of its inhabitants, some put their personal interests before justice, while others show a special sensitivity to mistakes and rudeness of people, many of them punish (consciously or unconsciously) the goodness of others and revere behaviors born of evil or hatred.
In fact, we often believe that the right people will be rewarded and the bad ones will be punished, but such a law does not exist in real life, life surprises us with its chance and randomness, this misconception generates many expectations that do not correspond. to reality It’s like we’re wondering what’s going to happen to us.
“No one can do good in one area of your life and hurt another. Is life an indivisible whole?
Life is not fair in this regard: there are good people who suffer and poor people victorious. The world sometimes seems very confusing. However, this does not mean that kindness does not make sense, that it should not be appreciated or recognized, it is particularly necessary to value relationships.
Good people bring light and brilliance to relationships. Never regret being nice because people don’t realize it and don’t appreciate your kindness. There will always be people who will appreciate your actions. The most important thing, as you can imagine, is not what others recognize. that we are, but that you feel comfortable with your own way of loving life and people.
To be a good person is to collect the arrows we throw into the world with our delicate bow. The arrows thrown always return to states of peace and tranquility. To the extent that what we do is, from the heart?And without waiting for the recognition of others, we can feel good in our goodness and not repent of anything. We believe that he has the power to comfort us, even deep within our being.
“You will see that the suffering of men is the result of their choices; look away from them, when it’s actually in your heart ??Samos Pythagoras?
When I act with my heart, I am just with myself and with others, however, if we want something from each other, we can ask, you can recognize yourself in this example: there are people who, in order to attract the love and attention of their partners, are very detailed with them and when their partners do not make the gesture, they get angry and blame the other for not returning it.
Manipulation is often disguised as tender kindness and involves misunderstandings, discussions and excessive energy expenditure that could end with an honest and simple statement of real intentions.
If I want the other to focus on the details, I can ask, but I will have to accept it if he acts forced and unnatural.
Perhaps it is better for our mental health to accept that the other person will probably not show their appreciation exactly the way or in the time we would like. We must not lose authenticity, being a good person means not worrying about whether you receive anything. in return or not.
If you are a good person just to get something in return, be honest with yourself and act more authentically, without resorting to these small manipulations that end up causing a lot of suffering for you and others. a good person Goodness always returns in the form of inner peace.