Perhaps one of our most difficult decisions is to select the people we can trust, who we can open ourselves to, stripping away our souls, at best and at worst. We can never be sure that the other person will keep it to themselves, because people tend to surprise us, unfortunately, not always in a good way, and it hurts to see our truths distorted, in a cruel and secret way.
Certainly our parents, or anyone who has the role of father or mother in our lives, will not use against us what we entrust to them, but there are things that for many it is impossible to share with parents, because it is something that can sometimes not be understood in the best way by those who love us so much and create expectations about us. We fear hurting or being misunderstood by those for whom we only want approval.
- Similarly.
- This is true for the partner.
- It is often difficult to have total and unrestricted transparency among the couple.
- Because some secrets would leave us baffled by our love.
- Even if we are sure of how they feel about us.
- Brothers can also be great confidants.
- Yet life tends to fill them all.
- Of their own problems and we fear bringing them another problem.
The thing is, we’re going to need someone to share what afflicts us, because that’s how the weight becomes less dense, so we build the complicities that make our storms less scary. The other will bring us a different look at everything, many times. less desperate, precisely because it will analyze things from the outside, without an extreme emotional burden, which makes everything more hazy. Unfortunately, the other will be able to use what we share in a way that hurts us. And it’s never going to be our, fault.
Don’t blame yourself for thinking that there are people who can sympathize with other people’s pain, for asking for help, if you use your feelings in the worst possible way, the mistake will never have been yours, let’s not add weight to our lives for what we didn’t do. Will it help us a lot, so that we can calm our hearts through the ravines?Are they recurring?