I don’t care what your parents did or stopped doing in their time, in the present you are responsible for your life, you are responsible for what you create for yourself, for the family you build, for self-love practices, for the hugs you give yourself, for the warmth of the affection that this generates for you and those around you.
Yes, it is true, what happens in childhood, adolescence and even adulthood with our parents marks us for life, however, this does not exempt us from the responsibility we have for our life and emotions, the present is the perfect time to purify our past. and detoxify our emotional life.
- Because a home is warm and living permanently with the memory of a child with flaws only transforms our emotional self into a cold igloo Can’t we live without healing our wounds.
- Without leaving aside the blades of knives?.
We all have, to a greater or lesser extent, toxicity marks in our childhood, it turns out that in some cases the negative outweighs the positive and, as a result, the family becomes a complex network of distorted or ambivalent relationships, relationships and relationships. Feelings.
There are father figures who are not synonymous with joy, identity, unity, loyalty, respect, love and fidelity, the development of bonds with our parents away from this ideal transforms us into boiling cauldrons, which are the genesis of complex and harmful dynamics.
Perhaps at first glance they see us calm, but in reality, deep down, we hide real antagonistic forces that struggle to lubricate our beliefs, values and feelings about the world and ourselves.
Parents are people and, as people, make mistakes, however, the pain caused by the child remains. In this sense, however brazenly we say we must learn from our mistakes, we can also learn from the mistakes made by our parents.
Thus, those who have not had the opportunity to grow up in a fully functional family should do a double job to strengthen and appreciate the feeling of love and respect for themselves and the people around them. To achieve this, it is good to have the advice of a mental health professional, who will help us open the lines of communication with ourselves.
Self-destructive and punitive behavior towards others must be reassessed and rejected by our “I” of the present, who is formed as an “I” and is able to discern the possibility of achieving it.
Childhood is fate, Freud would say; But the truth is that we cannot live helpless all our lives on the pretext that we had a complicated childhood and far from ideal. We need to internalize the message that whatever the destruction of our parent-child relationships, the prospects for our future are correct. for us.
This point is truly an ambitious challenge, as it requires a great desire for inner work to reject the judgments of parents we have seen nurture (or destroy) our self-esteem throughout our lives.
Whoever it is, feeling precious or deserving of happiness and love is a fundamental pillar of your ability to develop life, this requires you to be very empathetic or empathetic with yourself, recognizing through this empathy the right to live your own life the way you wish. Choose.