Looks like we were looking for some reason to go into “attack mode. “Today, there has been a war for motherhood in which, as always, the only culprit is the woman he he or she he is, judged by many as a terrible mother.
Worst of all, we, women and mothers, who are hurt; Judge very harshly, depending on how we act with our children. For many, this is valid proof, the only correct way to proceed, and the other forms deserve to be censored.
- It is true that there have been and unfortunately there will be mothers who abandoned their children or who are negligent.
- Even in these cases.
- We should not judge a woman as a bad mother; it’s better to say that he’s in trouble.
- That he’s wrong.
- That he made a bad decision in his life.
- And that he couldn’t do anything else at the time.
The truth is, it’s these women who will have to bear the weight of their decision for the rest of their lives.
However, this is a very radical example and should never be compared to mothers who really love their children and give up every day to give them their best.
While our understanding of motherhood, the education we want to give our children or the kind of food we choose in the early months of the child is, for us, the best way, doesn’t mean it’s really the best. , the one and the right.
We must be tolerant of other mothers who choose a different way of raising their children: as long as neither the baby nor the mother is hurt and happy, what is the problem?
Aren’t you a terrible mother if what defines your choices is the well-being of both?you and the boy. While this is correct, experts recommend following certain steps for a child’s education.
The reality is that it is the mother who spends hours and hours with her son, who really knows him and who has inside information to recognize the best way to raise him.
People criticize whether we decide to breastfeed for a long time, but they also criticize whether we decide to bottle feed. We’re judged if we sleep with our baby until a certain age, but also if we put it too early Isn’t it good for a baby to get used to your mother’s arms, but isn’t it advisable to let him cry alone either?Are we doing everything wrong?
No way! We are amazing, in the best way we know and can, always acting with love, which really captivates the baby and knowing what is best for him.
Not all children are the same: some feel lonely when they stay in their room, while others have no problems and can sleep peacefully. There are babies who do not get enough fat from breast milk and need extra support, while others grow a lot and are very healthy thanks to breast milk.
No, you are not a bad mother. Whatever you do, you are the best mother a child can have, the one who truly knows what will benefit the baby and benefit both of you.
What is the purpose of radically changing the baby’s room at six months, if both suffer?Why do you have to breastfeed if it causes you anxiety and is transmitted to your baby?We must release motherhood from negative emotions! it is a step to enjoy, be calm, at peace and happy and, thanks to science and common sense, there are alternatives to facilitate this process.
Aristotle has already said: in balance is virtue. And what was he why? As mothers, the best thing we can do is to be moderate in all our decisions and even more moderate when we judge other mothers, it’s not about reading all the books about motherhood and putting them into practice, because society thinks it’s the best way and that’s it.
This means that you also take into account your instincts, that you are satisfied with every decision you make and that you abandon the habit of judging yourself too harshly, the most important thing is that you and your baby are healthy and happy at all levels: physical and mental This is the best indicator that you do things right.
We can never forget that we are human and that we have the right to make mistakes and correct them. We can think much less of ourselves as bad mothers because we made a mistake in a moment. We can start over and correct our mistakes. , No problem.
Mothers must support us and above all respect ourselves, if you do not like to be judged, do not judge other mothers, even if you do not meet your criteria, in fact the professionals are there to give advice and suggestions to the mothers; and they can and should consult you, so it’s not advisable to venture to correct a mother who acts differently from you.
Don’t be an extremist. Moderation is the best way, keep an eye on the most important thing: what will really benefit the child is to grow up with conscious and loving parents.
Congratulate yourself on the good mother who is and do not blame yourself for the mistakes that may happen, create and educate are processes that, however special, are part of life and concern our human nature, so we must admit error as something biological and the consequent element of these. He is — he — he