No one gets hurt by throwing their pain at others, let alone the people they love, but we may have experienced this situation before, even if we don’t want to or don’t realize it.
It is very sad to feel bad about oneself, but it is even sadder to know that as a defense mechanism, we protect ourselves using a perverse instrument: to increase tension in relations with others, we project against them the frustration and pain we feel. inside because we have the intuition that no matter what happens to us, they will forgive us.
- Think.
- Don’t you regret having hurt someone in your life because of an emotional block from which you saw no way out? people who might have deserved a chance?.
The heart is one of the most precious organs, it is the representation of our emotional center, the soul mate that we must take care of the most, so it is not healthy for the heart to close, because if it is the case, in addition to entering the cold, we can only propose cold: if we suffer, it is good to understand that we have a therapeutic process within that, because it is not offered, night to those around us.
When we explore the outside one way or another, we don’t do it because of what’s outside, but because of what was born of a wound inside, imagine if we fall, hurt it and leave it uncovered or cleaned, what’s going to happen?
First of all, it can become infected, which will require a lot of work to solve it, secondly, it can also happen that someone passes and strikes us unintentionally, in that case it would hurt and we would react negatively to anyone who touched us. ; However, the problem is not the person who struck, but we do not heal our wound at the right time.
The heart needs to accept the situation that bothers us and the essence of the healing process is to understand how to overcome what makes us suffer: stopping to think about this situation that we want to leave behind is an individual act that requires a lot of effort and sacrifice on our part. If we don’t try hard enough, it may seem like the situation has happened, but it’s actually going to stay there and won’t let us walk.
On the other hand, as we have said, besides you, there is the other part with which we sometimes pay for personal suffering. Theoretically, it would be great for everyone to have this idea in mind: if those who are with me do it because they love me and are happy to look good, it is not fair that they pay for my lack of patience with them or try to change what bothers me.
Taking advantage of the birthday of the dear writer of the Little Prince, we look for a premise that he left embodied in his work: although the most primary reaction of any animal, including humans, is to create a defense barracks after being wounded by another. person, not everyone wants to hurt us and is not responsible for what happened to us.
By avoiding new relationships or blocking the more intimate access of our loved ones, for example, we will not be able to heal ourselves, let alone prevent a repeat of everything that has happened to us. Nor is it good to reject ayuda. de to others if they do so with their hearts, nor to hide the problem in the belief that it has ceased to exist. Ask yourself: is it possible for this to happen to you?
If your answer to the above question is indecisive or affirmative, you should prepare to pamper yourself a lot: just take care of yourself, give yourself another chance, listen, get better and love yourself, you can lead a happy life in harmony with others.
We must learn to say no when necessary. We must teach our hearts to make mistakes, to get to the bottom of the well and to get out of it, because that is the emotional balance: to regulate the good and bad aspects of the experiences that come to us. , we’ll take care of ourselves.
Hurting because someone has hurt us is misconduct that doesn’t solve anything, remember that a heart that doesn’t know what to do with your pain and attacks instead of looking for a cure ends up hurting you even more.