There is no white without black, there is no happiness without sadness, in terms of colors, our choice is based on taste, at least in part, however, as far as emotions are concerned, everything seems less variable. We reject those who cause us, discomfort, we embrace those who give us well-being, however, without some there would be no others, or at least not in the same way, could you value joy if you had never had the opportunity to feel sadness?
We tend to escape bad situations and sometimes not even that, sometimes we resign ourselves to suffering and are victims of circumstances that we believe are not in our hands, a very passive attitude that takes us away from the responsibility of our own lives.
“Reality is more real in black and white. -Octavio Paz-
The reality of knowing why we immerse ourselves in negativism without being able to open our eyes to the positive has its origin in the illusions and expectations of what we believe makes us happy Do we believe that a full life should be full of happiness, in which there is no lack of money, goodbyes, diseases, toxic relationships?
We’re running away from all this and the mistakes we made. When we can’t escape, it saddens us. You’re not doing the right thing. Thanks to all this, you know how to appreciate the opposite: the beauty of balance, of daily life, of abundance, of satisfying your needs.
Why do we despise bad things if they allow us to discern and even lead to good things?If you’d never been wrong, you’d probably know less than half of what you know today. If you’d never been lied to, you wouldn’t appreciate the fact that they didn’t, because you wouldn’t know how tempting this option can be. Similarly, if no friend had let you down, wouldn’t you know what true friendship is today?and it turns out that much of our knowledge was born of antagonisms.
In bad things there is always something good, in ugly ones there is always something beautiful, it is about opening your eyes and seeing for real.
It is in our relationships that we suffer the most, where we most notice this need to be always full of positive emotions and never negative emotions, all because we have made the mistakes already mentioned, although in this aspect much more remarkable. , whether friendly or in a relationship, it is our expectations that greatly condition the frustrations we experience.
No one is safe from suffering and it is not a shame, there are many negative people in this world and many circumstances that will test you, if you had not been hurt, you would never know how to distinguish these real people. of those who want to take advantage of you. All the bad things that happen to you have a positive side.
You may think that behind a betrayal there is nothing good, especially if it is your partner who deceives you with another person, however, over time, you will realize that, looking at her from afar, was somehow positive for you: your infidelity gave you the motivation to end a relationship that you had nothing left to give you.
Similarly, the experience of “disastrous relationships?” He may have given you enough luggage so that you now know very well what you want and what you don’t want. In fact, a break always teaches something, and that’s the fact that that person was not for you. In these relationships, you will also learn your tendency to act in difficult situations, those that you face with exhausted patience.
Without realizing it, sometimes we seek the darkness itself, how many times have you thought that having things would make you happy?Why do you feel doomed if you can’t have children?When was the last time you felt victimized when I was in your life?hands not to be victimized? The answers?in the form of valuable lessons?These questions only come with the exciting exercise of life.
There is no white without black, there is nothing if there is nothing, life moves around two opposing poles that attract.
Anything that involves emotions marks us even more. That’s why we always have so many problems in our relationships. Sometimes we put our needs in the hands of others: emotional needs, fears, needs to make us happy?However, there is nothing negative about it. It is through the pain and suffering that we learn. Only then can we grow as people. Because there’s never white without black, and that’s good.