Let’s start by saying that not all the prospects of irritation are bad, because sometimes it can be decisive to oxygenate the body, however, there is a very fine line separating this point of view from the one that says we are not always able. to control ourselves.
It is this more negative face that we will then deal with: it is the side that arrives with rage and rage, revealing the darkest part of ourselves. In that sense, when we get angry like this, do we act with a voluntary reaction?Therefore avoidable, in the face of the provocation of others: no one infuriates us, we infuriate ourselves.
- Generally speaking.
- And summarizing the introduction.
- Irritation is no longer positive when it becomes toxic because of the uncontrollability that can be exerted on it.
- When you no longer have control and pass it on to irritation.
- The problem arises: the feeling invades us and smokes reason.
The reason can be so hazy that it is not surprising to find a situation in which discussion leads us to get lost in other ways, so that we end up forgetting the real reasons why we feel uncomfortable, anger and anger become guides of our movements and this allows us to fall into error.
“Irritation is a very intense emotion that diverts the brain. When irritation takes hold of us, it causes our memory to reorganize to the point of making us forget, in the midst of an argument, why it started. ? -Daniel Goleman-
A mistake that means repenting of saying more than we want, and in addition to having done wrong. Mistake in alienating in favor of pride and selfishness (we do not hear or look at the navel itself). Anyway, when we get angry, we find ourselves in a place where we don’t know exactly how we got here or why, a place we wouldn’t also like to be.
So what do we do? This question arises when one realizes that the negative face of irritation is difficult to counteract. Well, we must be able to be convinced that there is another way to see the events. For certain circumstances? Whether in this case or another, one possibility is to find tools that prepare us psychologically and emotionally for conflict.
The key is to know that at any time something can happen that changes us, and we have to accept it as a possibility, the discussions cannot cease to exist, as well as that sense of irritability that takes hold of us when one dives into it.
Don’t think the enemy won’t show up. Trust what you expect, don’t think you won’t attack. Trust how you can be untouchable. -Matilde Asensi-
However, knowing our weaknesses – the ones they hurt – will help us manage them if necessary. To do this, one can vent by writing, making the most of techniques such as yoga, or cultivating a more positive perspective of the world where the protagonist is humor, etc.
As we have said, it is true that in a conflict with another person the situation of action-reaction arises and is difficult to control; however, we said that ultimately the owner of the irritation were ourselves. In this sense, we observe that we all have our own emotions and attitudes and, paradoxically, we cannot control ourselves.
On the one hand, there seem to be people more likely to be angry with others: they are more intensely exalted than average (they scream, they are in a bad mood and they insult more easily). On the other hand, it is common to express, through irritation, other negative feelings considered socially worse, such as envy.
“It’s ironic that one of the few things we control is our own attitude, and yet most of us live our whole lives behaving like we’re out of control. “Jim Rohn.
Ledo’s mistake: irritation coexists with our human peculiarity, but it is good to control us so that the testimony of our own behavior does not fall into your hands, in short, it is best to try to avoid cholera and its synonyms, products of frustration. .