Unrequited love is normal, almost all of us have experienced it at some point in our lives. We focused on the wrong people who didn’t feel the same way. What I would like to say in this article is that you should not see unrequited love as if something is wrong with you, it has nothing to do with your personal worth.
I see around me many people who are emotionally dependent on people who can’t bring them happiness, it seems like we’re experiencing an epidemic of pathological love and the worst part is that they don’t realize they have a problem, they need to look for more accessible people. Often behind prayer? I never have, what bad luck?, hides the fear of getting involved, taking us unconsciously to engage with people who are out of our reach, or the excuse that we have been too long, you are married or the age difference is too important, etc. ?
- Thus.
- By focusing on someone who is incompatible with us.
- We do not run the risk of making concessions.
- Many.
- Without realizing it.
- Engage in platonic loves in which the person resigns himself to the friendship of the one who loves.
- Even if it leads to nothing.
- They live in illusions.
- Without understanding that what needs to be done is to cut off contact and continue to know other people.
- Otherwise you will fall into a love stagnation.
Have you ever wondered why you fall in love with some people and not others?He certainly met beautiful and ideal people, but not knowing why, he was not attracted. On the contrary, you may have already met someone who wasn’t particularly handsome, but had something that attracted you. It’s hard to rationalize love. It doesn’t depend on the beauty, the position it occupies, or the cultural or economic level, it depends more on the chemistry and emotions that form when you think of someone, but unrequited love should not hurt your self-esteem. Chemistry has no explanation, it is activated with some people and not with others.
1. Face the problem head-on: when you feel something important to someone, don’t prolong the situation. Spending years having a friendship with someone you love will hurt you, the longer it goes by, the worse it will be. You will avoid more suffering if you have the courage to deal with the situation and tell the person how you feel, so the problem will be solved once and for all, and if it is not reciprocal, at least you will not depend on someone who was not for you and prevented you from meeting other interested people.
2. Love has not been made to suffer: if you go out with someone who gives you more suffering than joy it is time to think if it is worth living like this, a healthy love does not make you suffer, a healthy love also receives what it gives. Couples are formed to increase happiness, not to sabotage it.
3. Put your feet on the ground: stop dreaming about platonic love, be realistic and if someone doesn’t suit you cut off contact and eliminate memories, learn to stay focused on the real and achievable and try to meet new people with the profile that interests you as a couple. This way, if something comes out of friendly contact, you’re already in front of the right person.
Don’t allow uncertainty: many couples ask for time, they need space to decide, don’t leave this uncertainty for long. Usually, those who need a lot of time to decide are no longer in love, I’m not saying that’s always the case, but whatever the reason for pushing someone away, you have to show respect for the other person and it doesn’t take long to give a clear answer Don’t let them play with your life and your time, it demands respect Eliminate the need to have a partner to feel happy , the best opportunities come when the person feels good about himself, even if he is single.