Choosing to be strong and dealing with pain is the best we can do, but sometimes this strategy doesn’t mean constantly reviving and twisting it. Avoiding something that requires work and challenges you to achieve what you enjoy in life is to avoid constantly encountering what disturbs your mental state and prevents you from living in peace is emotional intelligence.
Freedom and strength also consist of avoiding repeated encounters with what bothers us or causes us pain. To be strong is to face one’s own fears and ghosts, like the fear of rejection to show us who we are. And we are as much what we love as we are. We don’t. So not dealing with what hurts is a smart decision, not a coward.
- Some humanist psychologists like Carl Rogers have already pointed out that every human being’s tendency is self-realization.
- Others like Kelly.
- Royce and Powell talked about human ability to be an active agent who builds reality to adapt to the world.
- And also to build one’s individuality.
This process of research and experimentation is totally fascinating so little by little we will find what makes us grow as people, and we are not stuck in a prototype more like a robot than an original and dynamic person, which changes over time and circumstances.
Depression and anxiety sometimes stem from immobility, an immobility that stems from the imposed conviction that, to be a valid person, one must boast an unusual force in the face of what cannot be endured. It is the idea that success lies in the ability to overcome it and emerge victorious.
Many psychological disorders arise when we can’t say “ASSEZ” in time. Something seemingly easy in some contexts, but extremely difficult for some people who prefer to sit in an uncomfortable and dangerous seat rather than make the effort to repair it.
In our world, the state of happiness is no longer a state of mind, but a constant imposition: to be happy, to be strong and, above all, to be shown in this way, this created need becomes an emotional prison that does not allow the complex psychic dynamism that human beings have to flow.
One of the factors of this dynamism is the discontent and pain caused by certain people and situations, humans feel pain, we always feel it, but being able to avoid it when it is in our hands is a healthy emotional strategy. It doesn’t mean we’re more or less strong, but it does show our own intelligence to avoid what we know has always weakened us.
“Be a strong son, this child cannot beat you; Deal with that?”Be strong in the face of a breakup, you must be able to see your ex with someone else. “Be strong and hold on, even if you don’t like this job, you’ll get your salary. “Connect with all kinds of people, even if sometimes they are bad, life is like that. “Don’t take your family’s contempt so seriously, blood is blood. “Who hasn’t heard these phrases before?
If it is true that life is so, with difficult times, we do not need to define strength and cowardice in these terms. Does strength have more to do with statements like “Should I be able to speak in public one day because what is important to my work?”Today I want to be in a good mood and I don’t need to be in the same place as my ex when I haven’t recovered yet?”Won’t I be silent in front of me, the contempt of the mother in public?or “I’m going to quit this job because I’m running out and it’s not what I want in life. “
For the vast majority, the latest statements belong to a utopian world, to immature and selfish people, but the former perpetuate many more situations of pain and injustice than the latter create people dissatisfied with their work, with their peers and friends. They create people who are unable to realize themselves because they don’t know how to differentiate unnecessary pain from precious pain.
The strength of misunderstanding causes people to let go of their own feelings. Waste your talents and passions to get you to the right places and with the wrong people. So think if you’re smart, you won’t need to develop as much strength to deal with complicated situations. Don’t feel cowardly, but someone who fights for what makes you stronger and not who strives to handle what weakens you.