It is unique and curious that he was an excessively shy and reserved French painter, such as Pierre Bonnard, who uttered the phrase “Draw your pleasure, paint your pleasure and firmly express your pleasure”, that is, a gentleman known for his sensitivity and Parsimony with words advised us not to let go of a single day without expressing his emotions and feelings , without saying “Do I love you?”people we love.
There is no doubt that, if the most shy and reserved people are able to observe beauty, understand it and express it with enormous sensitivity, anyone could say: do I love you?To those who deserve your love and friendship.
- Expressing your emotions and feelings and letting them flow is not only good behavior.
- It is also necessary.
- In fact.
- It is a habit that ensures better mental and physical health.
“Never miss the opportunity to express your love. “-H Jackson Brown-
Not expressing your emotions is a social behavior that, although openly accepted, is negative for human health. So much so that today this symptom is considered the basis of an identified disorder: alexitimia.
Alexithymia occurs in people who are somehow unable to identify, express or verbalize their emotions, so not putting words in the emotions can lead to serious mental and behavioral health problems, in fact, there are cases of depression, isolation social and even somatization due to the inability to vent a stream of badly channeled feelings.
However, alexitimia can also cause physical problems as a result of psychological difficulties. For example, it can cause stomach pain, heart attacks, high blood pressure, ulcers and even irritable bowel syndrome, among other conditions.
In addition, alexitimia still has more disastrous consequences. Living without being able to express one?
“Crying is sometimes the way to express things that can’t be said in words. “
To talk about the extreme cases of alexitimia, I would like to mention a unique television series that succeeded in different countries around the world a few years ago, I’m talking about Dexter, with actor Michael C. Hall.
The show’s protagonist, named Dexter, had behaviors close to psychopathy because of his inability to show empathy, express feelings and even feel them. For him, I mean, did I love you, it was a real agony.
Obviously, this is an extreme case coming out of fiction, however, this can serve as a starting point for looking for similar symptoms in each of us and knowing if we may be more or less affected by alexitimia.
According to the Spanish Society of Neurology, up to 10% of the world’s population suffers from alexithymia, so it is obvious that it is a problem that affects a good number of people, many of whom may be close to us.
To identify people with this disease, it is necessary to examine their ability to empathy or their opportunities to express themselves, in addition, those who have suffered a stroke, brain tumors or head injuries may be affected.
The brain is what allows the human being to feel love, joy or fear, and is responsible for the relationship between feelings and emotions and words, it is a mental function that goes beyond social conditioning, because it is actually a necessity.
According to Dr. Pablo Duque of the Spanish Society of Neurology, “the inability to identify and verbalize emotions and feelings in people is due to an interruption of the connection between brain structures”.
It’s obvious that expressing emotions, showing feelings or saying “Do I love you?”It’s not just a beautiful and beautiful thing, it’s also a psychological necessity that improves our mental and physical health.