It was Lavoisier who discovered this universal law: “Matter is not created or destroyed, it is only transformed. “But does this law also apply to our feelings, emotions, and thoughts?
This issue strikes us mainly when we are going through a situation of loss or rupture.
- When a marriage ends and we’re not ready for it.
- When someone we love dies and we desperately need to see him again.
- When do people or situations that are very important to us disappear from our world?.
Can we say that something really ended forever, is death or distance the end of everything?
“A start never goes away, even when it comes to the end. “
? Harry Mulisch-
We all know that everything has a beginning and an end, in fact, we spend much of our lives saying goodbye, living new situations and giving an official funeral to others.
At birth, the gestation period ends. We said goodbye to this belly, where everything was hot and where we had nothing to do to meet all our basic needs.
From there, we’ll go through a series of beginnings and endings that happen non-stop.
We say goodbye to our mother when we go to school, say goodbye to childhood to flourish in youth, say goodbye to young people to grow up. And finally, we must prepare to say goodbye to life.
We live in many ‘intermediate purposes’
We changed schools and then ended the bonds we had established and the expectations that floated in our minds. We moved into a new neighborhood and discovered that it was all over to start over. You find a new job, you go to another country or just discover that every day that ends is unique; never repeats itself.
Even without realizing it, we are constantly exposed for purpose.
The purposes that really shake us are those that put us face to face with the eternal and the infinite; those who refer to ideas like?forever or never again. Looking at the face of nothing is a disturbing experience.
When someone we love dies, is he gone forever or is he just desperately away from us?
What hurts us is the awareness that we will never have that person near us again, or that the connection that existed will never be the same again.
We know this and yet we still feel the love for this person, or the need to keep them close. It’s the drama: the bond runs out, but the feeling remains. This person is no longer physically present, but the affection for him is still alive. as usual.
We are all reluctant to abandon someone we love. We cannot give up those memories of seeing or hearing that person; has brought us security, happiness and peace.
While the call wasn’t the best, just knowing that this person was there made us feel like everything was in order. But now it’s no longer there, and instead there’s a dark abyss where you don’t want to stay.
Everything that starts and ends. And, at the same time, everything that ends starts differently.
It happens in the world of physics, chemistry and the human world. None of the realities in which we live will disappear. None of the deep feelings we have will end.
After the loss, absence and emptiness are very difficult realities to endure, over time, where there was great love, a garden of beautiful memories will flourish that will comfort us forever.
The place where this person was, which we will always miss, will give rise to a deep sense of gratitude that will make us appreciate life in a different way.
Anyway, those who are gone stay with us forever, even when we no longer think of them, what they are born in our hearts allows us to be all that we are today.
If you do not accept these purposes, the pain persists and is not lasting. We have no control over these events that cannot and should not be a repetition of what has already been.