Don’t worry if you can’t manage everything today; It’ll be all right if you still can’t get up. Take as much time as you need. Remember that broken people have pieces of life that can be spread and that it hurts to walk, breathe and even think, start the fight, embrace your wounds, because little by little you will feel your body lighter and your mind stronger?
Albert Ellis used to say that one of the automations we practice every time we experience a disappointment, a loss or a traumatic event is to blame ourselves, besides, what we usually do is project some contempt for not being able to manage our lives, not having the courage to get up in the morning, the value of facing certain situations and circumstances.
- Take the time to heal yourself.
- As long as you need it.
- Because it is a journey that no one knows what the date of arrival will be.
- But the truth is that you will reach this other season: the season of calm.
- Inner peace and well-being.
It is as if we want to run after suffering a fracture, we are irritated to feel pain and not be able to go as fast as our mind wishes, we forget that there is an injury in the foot that needs to be treated, that we need rest, treatment and, above all, we must be aware that, for a while, we cannot walk and much less run?
Take your time, everything you need and not what someone else says you need, because everyone has their own rhythm, everyone needs their own orientations, strategies, internal awakenings and external aids to obey and work on a daily basis. It is essential because today, whether we like it or not, we assume certain mistakes that prevent us from building a real healing process.
As explained in an interesting article published in the journal Perspectives on Psychological Science, in recent years the idea that people are resistant by nature has become popular, we are often told that time heals everything and that we must let our brain act, gradually allowing the inside strength we need to dissolve all stressors and overcome any adverse situation.
That’s not true. Time alone does not cure, and we do not have an autopilot that can be activated to guide us on the path to resilience, so what the researchers of this work tell us is that taking on this kind of idea puts us in a scenario of authentic psychological passivity, desperately diving into the quicksand, where we expect a cure that will never happen.
Popular psychology, like some spiritual aspects, tends to germinate in us misconceptions that are far from what science actually says, assuming that many of these concepts can interfere with our psychological healing, it is necessary to take into account some of these false myths.
We mentioned at the beginning of the article the reference to Albert Ellis: people are angry at themselves for not being able to heal quickly, not running as fast as I would like, not being the person they’ve always been. we live in a world where we are forced to always be well, always functional, to sell an image of intact and impressive happiness.
However, life doesn’t come with Instagram filters, we can’t improve our mood with a single click, this task takes time and work and, above all, an intentional approach, so we’ll talk about two simple strategies to achieve it.
Finally, we must not forget that in this healing process, it is good not to leave a business; you have to choose good travel companions, choose a good professional who will guide us in this process will make everything easier and help us understand that before you run again you have to learn to walk again.
Achieving this is possible; it will take time, but we will achieve that goal.