There is a false belief that opposites are attracted, or that different couples are the ones who work and complement each other. What I miss, you complete it and vice versa.
It is true that what we perceive as new or different can attract us a lot at first, because human beings are usually very curious, but then a romantic relationship works between two very different people, is there a world?However, we can never say that it is impossible.
- If we are careful.
- When we choose our friends.
- We almost always tend to approach people who share.
- More or less.
- Our same interests and goals.
- Who have dreams and tastes very similar to our own.
- And that is what makes the bond maintain time.
Relationships are not far from friendship. Personally, I think couples should be, in addition to lovers, very friendly. First, because it will make them enjoy life much more together and the relationship will be greatly enriched; second, because once the limited time of passion has elapsed from the beginning, the friendship that unies them will strengthen the relationship and make it more lasting.
If people don’t look alike, when the period of attraction and madness ends at first, they will eventually get bored and fall into an unbearable monotony.
It is true that having someone else by our side can contribute and teach certain things, but there will come a time when there will be more debate and discussion than anything else and, inevitably, the relationship will eventually run out over time, because of the large number of differences that will appear.
Especially if the differences relate to vital values, interests and objectives, the relationship will be doomed to failure, unless one member becomes so little loved that he becomes dependent on the other and changes his own values, tastes and preferences to become a copy of the other person and, unfortunately, is more common than we think.
People with low self-esteem are often attracted to other people who have nothing to do with them, because of the false belief that the other needs to complement them, when in reality we are all complete human beings and we don’t need anyone. to give us anything. .
This does not mean that it is not of utmost importance that each member has their own space and does things beyond the relationship, this habit is healthy and good for the relationship, but like everything, there should always be a limit.
Therefore, it is possible that at first it attracts different people, because of the novelty, which is a very powerful aphrodisiac, but in the long run, studies show that couples composed of opposite people meet, because more problems arise than benefits.
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