Committed people inspire our trust. They’re building a safe path to follow in our footsteps. They’re the light in the dark. The people involved allow us to feel more relaxed about uncertainty, because we know they will act as we have been told.
Someone who gets involved in something does so not only in big projects or big projects, but also in small gestures, small gestures, in fact, have a much greater value than we think, imagine that person who, every time he sets a day to meet someone, ends up canceling the appointment. She does it several times, even when the other will find her.
Committed people make us feel calmer and more confident
There are people who end up generating inappropriate uncertainty on the part of a friend, do they cancel appointments, find hundreds of excuses to justify their disinterest? Little lies that, added one after another, have a devastating effect on the other person. The effect of mistrust. Lack of trust ends relationships and fills us with insecurity, it is a fertilizer for the field of uncertainty.
Uncertainty is the silent killer who destroys all fertile ground in our lives, whether a person is to our liking or not natural enough, something we should not be ashamed of. Besides, the strange thing would be that everything always interests us in the same way.
“The best way to know if you can trust anyone is to trust. – Ernest Hemingway-
In a way, the solution here seems simple. If something doesn’t interest me, I leave it because I have no interest in committing to it. However, there are people who are so dedicated to pleasing everyone that they end up canceling their own lives. All for a tireless search for the approval of the other.
They get lost and find in them a drowned cry that warns them that something is wrong in their lives, something that doesn’t work authentically, maybe you think at that moment when you did something just to please someone else. feel comfortable. He probably felt sold for something he shouldn’t have done.
However, when we talk about people we care about, it’s important to think about our reliability with these people, whether we want to be trustworthy or something we’re not really interested in.
If you want to be trustworthy, you can think of those times when you didn’t want to do something, but you had an excuse to get rid of that, imagine other times when you got involved and didn’t. certainly arises. I’m sorry, maybe.
Repentance, why? The healthiest thing would be to repent of giving our word when we are not sure we can keep it. Sometimes we make small commitments in life without thinking coldly about whether we will be able to fulfill them or not. And the truth is that when something really matters to us, we acquire many of these commitments to the best of our intentions.
In this sense, we must be aware of how we damage and damage the ties that bind us to others. Trust and security are a large part of the foundation we need to have good relationships with others. If I suspect someone and I don’t. feel safe by his side, that relationship does not help me.
What if I keep losing my word? If I constantly do not fulfill my commitments, I will undermine the trust that the other has placed in me. Of course, there will be times when we will have to fail.
Those who are hired must also postpone their commitments. They are not foolproof; Unforeseen events happen that need to be resolved, but we are talking about this lack of discourse systematically and without any justification of higher order.
“Trust serves conversations more than intelligence. -Fransois de La Rochefoucauld-
We have the right not to be able to commit everything, not to want to commit ourselves to what we do not want, nor to know if we will succeed, we have the right to be authentic and honest with others and with ourselves. , it is important, in turn, to value our word and everything we freely decide to compromise.
This will make it easier to review our relationships and evaluate the reason for many behaviors. Once we understand our word, why?So let’s not spend it so easily.